Confused with my decision on sending my son to live with his dad out of state.

Sunsara77 - posted on 04/12/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hello All,
Battling yet another sleep less night. Sent my now 16 year old son to live with his dad after battling school after school with him. My son was diagnosed in 5th grade with ADHD and ODD. Schooling has been a constant thorn in my side since then, even with my son taking medication to control his focusing issues. In January while he was attending a boarding school I sent him to which was an 30 minutes outside of where we are originally from, he cut up yet again and was put out of the school. His father who
has been forever in and out of his life made the decision to move to another state, and I suggested it be best for my son to go with him. My sons been gone since January and I've argued with his dads controlling gf about numerous issues concerning my son, and have a hard time speaking with my son because he stays on punishment and they keep his phone. I recently sent my son a laptop to communicate with him via email but he won't email. He is still having challenges in school and sometimes skipping classes. I stay abreast as best as I can with the school administrators. Seems like since dad works and his gf does not she handles all of my sons academic issues. Just so torn somedays I see my sons tweets and he states how much he hates living there, and other times he seems okay. Pot use is the big thing there and by 18 its legal. I feel so broken in this situation. I was hoping at the end of this school year to bring him
When I move to another state, but his grades from boarding school did not transfer over, and if he leaves the state he's in he will have to
Repeat the grade he's in. It will be his second retention, with the first not being his fault. He's chosen to stay, but dad can't even communicate with me because I hadn't yet taken him off of child support that he's been on since my son was 1. Wanted to see if this was a good for before wiping all legal commitments to helping raise our child. I cannot stand the gf so we don't speak and now I feel so lost. I'm praying for god's strength and clarity to work through this but I'm fearful of the unknown. Don't think
Dads job warrants enough time being with our son and they don't allow him to do much outside the home. Just looking for some kind words from a parent preferably mom with a son that's had this kind of plight. My son is my everything and I want to believe that I have grounded and set the foundation for him, in a way that he will get his life in order before he becomes an adult. HELP... By the way the gf has no children of her own. Also I sent them a binder full of schools, and therapist to help all of them and the school I read that was one of the worst and I suggested not sending him to, they did. I've sacrificed everything as parents should for my son, but I just don't see them making the same commitments.

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