confusion of child in adult roles in his life

Jenn - posted on 03/25/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello,
I am a 17 year old teen mom. I am working and going to school, supporting my son on my own as his father has opted not to be very involved. My son is almost 4 months old, and obviously with the school and work (to support both of us and give him a better life now and in the future) he is babysat quite a bit. My father and step-mother (his grandparents) are incredibly helpful and watch him whenever i need them to (which is a couple of times a week). He loves them and knows them, but is growing increasingly attached to his grandfather. Of course i love that he loves him...but thats where my question comes in...

Does anyone know how to really distinguish adult roles for a child? Does it matter at this age? And if so how could we start to do this for him in a healthy way?

I am just fearing that because his father is not around he is starting to naturally draw towards his grandfather for that role. I dont think its a bad thing and he will be a great influence on my son as he grows, but i dont want him getting a little older and becoming confused. If anyone has any information or suggestions it would be incredibly helpful! Thank you!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/25/2013

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You have a great attitude Jenn, and sounds like you have an awesome support system! This is a recipe for success! Good luck love!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/25/2013

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At this age, all they really understand is comfort. It is a good thing he is so comfortable with your parents. That is great. He will understand the roles. He is growing up with his grandparents around, and you will distinguish that easily enough as he is getting older.

And awesome job keeping up on school, and taking charge of your life! Great work!

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Jenn - posted on 03/25/2013

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@little miss. No choice! He deserves everything and its up to me to make sure he has it all(: i will do everything i have to to give my little prince everything he deserves! Thank you(:

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