Elizabeth - posted on 12/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi... I have a complicated family relationship. My fiance has a daughter of his own and also helps raise her older half sister. They have the same mom just different dads. The older one is 12 and the younger one is 10. My fiance and I have been together for almost 2 years now. There was 8 years between the girls mom being with my fiance and me. They were never married and were only together about 2-3 years. The older daughter is full of attitude and back talks all of us. It is worse when it comes to me. I understand that it is going to happen at that age and to me because I am the new one in the family. She keeps using the excuses that she doesn't show emotion and that I don't know her. I have done nothing but try and get to know these girls. I would and still do take them on my days off work when they are out of school. I have taken an interest in their grades and their homework. I haven't missed a school activity since we started dating. In Christmas she was upset because she was not allowed to take her phone into my parents and had to wait to open her presents until we got there. We then found a message on her phone to a 16 year old boy she doesn't know that I was the reason she had a terrible Christmas. She acted like she hated all her gifts and it was all in the exact tell if what she asked for. I am at a loss of what to do and how to get that connection with her. I have never asked for them to call me mom because I know I am not. All I have asked is for a little respect. What do I do???