Conquences

Jaiden Simnclair - posted on 12/22/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I need conquences for girls ages 9-10 and conquences for boys age 12-13

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Dove - posted on 12/26/2015

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Do the adults in the household cuss? I'm not entirely sure on consequences as the occasional time that a word has popped up a simple reminder of 'our family doesn't talk like that' has been all that was needed.

I suppose if that weren't enough then loss of privileges or a treasured item for a few days as well as a brief report (a paragraph or two) on why it is unacceptable to talk like that and how they could appropriately express themselves instead.

You want consequences not to 'punish' the child, but to make them really think about their actions and why they are not acceptable and what WOULD be an acceptable alternative... especially as the kids get older because 'self discipline' is the ultimate goal...doing what is right because it is right... and not just because of what 'bad thing' might happen if they don't make wise choices.

Raye - posted on 12/23/2015

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My mom washed our mouths out with dish soap if we cussed. It's probably frowned upon these days, but I'm 40 and I still don't cuss much in front of my mom.

Michelle - posted on 12/23/2015

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It all really depends on your stance on what is acceptable or not.
What works for 1 family probably won't work for another so you need to find out what works for your family. Like I said earlier, it can be anything from taking away electronics to grounding.
In my opinion, if you haven't had consequences up until now then you will have a hard time enforcing anything! It should be done from birth.

Jodi - posted on 12/22/2015

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Like Michelle said, it depends what they have done. I believe in the punishment fitting the crime, not a single consequence for all misdemeanors.

Michelle - posted on 12/22/2015

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It depends on what they have done and what they like. There's no one size fits all for consequences and discipline.

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