Ari - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )
I recently discovered I am pregnant. I currently have a 20 month old son and this being an unplanned pregnancy, I'm not quite financially prepared for another child at this time. I don't want to have an abortion, but I sincerely believe my fiance and I are not ready for another child this soon. Although I hate the idea of giving my old child up, I am considering adoption, but I'm also not comfortable with the traditional forms of adoption. I would like an open type of adoption where the child can opt to know who I am and who his/her father is. We would like regular updates on our child as well, but I'm not too sure how many adoptive parents would condone such a relationship. The main drawback I have when it comes to the thought of adoption is Not knowing how my child is or how he/she is being cared for. Naturally we wouldn't dare be overbearing with our ideals on parenting, but we'd just like to have contact with the family that adopts our child, if we agree to adoption. Has anyone done anything like this and if so, what type of adoption is this? Where do you go to find families that would comply with such an adoption plan? We have no idea where to begin. Any feedback would be GREATLY appreciated! Thank you.