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Sarah - posted on 03/28/2015

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If you feel your social worker is not treating you fairly, as to have your case reviewed by a different case worker. Do you have a reuniting plan started for your children? It may be a long term plan, but in the mean time the social worker should be setting short term goals for you to meet. If there is no plan n place right now, ask what expectations you need to meet to first increase your visits.

Sarah - posted on 03/27/2015

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You must follow the directions put in place by social services, if they want you to get out of the relationship, get counseling, get a job , whatever. The more willing you are to comply with their instructions the sooner you will regain increased visitation.
If you are currently in an abusive relationship, then that must be your first priority. End that relationship.

Sarah - posted on 03/27/2015

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Reach out to whomever is in charge of your kids placement. Either a social worker or case worker would be the first step. Much depends on why your children are not with you currently. Did you lose custody or did you never have custody? I know it may be a sensitive topic but the more info you can share, the better advice you will get.

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Jenny - posted on 04/10/2015

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shawnn i have been on to social services and now they have moved contact to saturdays and my sister is to supervise so there is a little in improvement, can i take social services to court for extra contact or would that be a bad move thanks shawnn for any advice

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/09/2015

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Jenny, you negate every bit of advice given and claim that you don't know what to do, even after its been explicitly spelled out.

Jenny - posted on 04/09/2015

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shann you have no idea what i am doing to get kids back and its not my fault at end of day when some cunt beats the shit out of you and rapes you believe me i am working at it

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/07/2015

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There's got to be more than one.

If you want your kids back, you have to be willing to WORK for it.

Jenny - posted on 04/07/2015

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did that last time and got what i thought was good but she turned out to be crap thanks anyway

Chana - posted on 04/02/2015

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Shawnn just tells it like it is. I have not posted on this before because it seemed like others all had the right ideas. You just need to get your act together, stop making excuses, request a new case worker and keep moving forward.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/02/2015

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Do you NOT understand these words: "If you feel that your case needs reviewed, REQUEST A REVIEW from child services. If you feel that your caseworker needs to be replaced, ASK FOR A REPLACEMENT." Each country is different in how they handle these things. You need to do what is appropriate for your circumstances.

We cannot get much more clear than that.

Jenny - posted on 04/02/2015

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i am not making excuses i just dont no where to start i no i need a new solicitor i need one who knows his stuff and what do i do about my social worker do i just request a new one

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/02/2015

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"What do I do now?"

You've been told. Request a case review, and a new caseworker if you feel that you've been slighted. Abide by caseworkers recommendations on improving your situation.

Stop making excuses. My MIL was in an abusive relationship. As soon as she realized it was jeopardizing her children SHE GOT OUT and sent the perverted asshole to jail. This was 35 years ago. She followed the recommendations by child services to help her children, and she didn't lose them. I'm married to one now.

Jenny - posted on 04/02/2015

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yes i have made some bad choices but i must say when you have some bastard beating you and controlling your life there is no choice but to do as he says i meet someone else and he helped me get my partner out of my life all that did was save me from him and he told lie after lie about me he won social services over but my solicitor was a trainee and lose everything what do i do now

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015

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I would request a new case worker. They can't say "never" unless they move to have your kids adopted out. They should set goals to help you get your life back on track and get your kids back. If you want them, you have to fight for them and do whatever it takes to get them back.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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From what I've read here, you have continually made poor choices regarding the children's welfare, so you're going to have to suck it up and abide by what you're told to do, whether you agree or not.

If you feel your case merits a review, request one.

Jenny - posted on 04/01/2015

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i will write the reasons y my social worker is like she is and then u tell me your views thanks for all your help

Sarah - posted on 03/29/2015

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Then you need to go to your social worker's supervisor and ask for a plan to be made to return your kids to your care. If we have the whole story, and they took your children becasue you were being abused and subjecting them to potential harm, then you leaving the relationship should be enough for you to at least see them more frequently. It may be a three year plan, with lots of short and long term goals but in most cases the goal is to reunite the children with their parent. What reason does your social worker give for saying "never".

Jenny - posted on 03/28/2015

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my social worker puts me down no matter what i do i asked if my sister could have the kids but she said no and moved them to a strange relation of my partners and that did not work out now there with my sister my children are so emotional when they see me cos contact was dropped from 104 time a year to 6 when they moved them all i want to do is end this night mare firstly i am controlled beaten raped by my x partner for 16 years
i finally get him out my life and now my kids are taken

Jenny - posted on 03/28/2015

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the abuser was there dad whom wsa a drunk and violent and controlled my life i no longer have anything to do with him and never will

Jodi - posted on 03/27/2015

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Why were you still living with your abuser then? Are you still living with him? The obvious solution to me is to get the abuser out of your life. You did endanger your children by staying with him, so clearly the court believes you can't make good choices around your partners, so time to demonstrate otherwise. Get your life back together, abandon your abuser, and stay single.

Jenny - posted on 03/27/2015

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my five kids was taken because i couldnt protect them from there dad he used to beat me if i didnt do as i was told ans social services said they would take kids if there was any more incidents so i was frightened to phone police cos ss would say it was an incident at first i saw them twice a week but after the court hearing can only see them 6 times a year what do i do to get more contact

Jenny - posted on 03/27/2015

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my five kids was taken because i couldnt protect them from there dad he used to beat me if i didnt do as i was told ans social services said they would take kids if there was any more incidents so i was frightened to phone police cos ss would say it was an incident at first i saw them twice a week but after the court hearing can only see them 6 times a year what do i do to get more contact

Jodi - posted on 03/27/2015

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It depends on why you have only been ordered this contact in the first place.

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