contact with grown up children

Graham - posted on 01/05/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am a Dad, my two daughters are in late twenties , and they only call or text aprox once a month, I came from a close family and would have liked my family to be the same, but they are not. is it unreasonable to expect them to at least email once a week.
.If i text or email them , I feel I am being anoying to them. if I dont have some important information to tell them

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Ev - posted on 01/05/2014

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Graham--

Your are welcome. My ex decided he wanted out of marriage and thus the divorce but I never expected him to want to take the kids with him too. I settled for joint custody with him having primary care. I did that for their benefit not mine. Through 11 years, I have a close relationship with them and maybe more so because we had to make the best of what time we did have together. So I can understand that keeping in touch even though they are doing their own thing in life. I still have one under 18 and is still at home. He plans to live with me when he gets out of high school to go to tech school. I hear from him a lot less than his sister too. But he is a boy. But I was glad to answer you. If you want to contact me via the email here....please do.

Evelyn

Graham - posted on 01/05/2014

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Hi Evelyn,
I suppose we are quite close, I brought them up alone after my wife left me when they were 12 ans 14 I do see them at all the key times like birthdays, fathersdays, odd meals out and to their homes, they are both with partners and have careers ,but no children , the eldest is getting married next April, I will be giving her away. Its just that the weeks roll over and its not hard to keep in touch , especially with all the means availlabe to keep in touch.
I just thought maybe other parents may be keeping in weekly contact as the norm,
sorry for the moan , and thanks for your kind reply
regards Graham

Graham - posted on 01/05/2014

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Hi Evelyn,
I suppose we are quite close, I brought them up alone after my wife left me when they were 12 ans 14 I do see them at all the key times like birthdays, fathersdays, odd meals out and to their homes, they are both with partners and have careers ,but no children , the eldest is getting married next April, I will be giving her away. Its just that the weeks roll over and its not hard to keep in touch , especially with all the means availlabe to keep in touch.
I just thought maybe other parents may be keeping in weekly contact as the norm,
sorry for the moan , and thanks for your kind reply
regards Graham

Ev - posted on 01/05/2014

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Our kids in this age range have lives all their own. How is it you want to be close? I am close in bonds with both of my kids. My daughter is the only one of the two that is on her own. She is in her mid 20's now but she has a life of her own with a child, one on the way, a husband, and inlaws she lives with. She works and is trying to return to school. We do not even text or email once a week. Not even phone calls but yet we do remain close. Sometimes it is not easy if a person has a very busy work schedule/life to keep in touch even this often. If you have a strong bond with those daughters, then you are close to them. Its just they are busy. But you might offer a chance for coffee time with the both of them at the same time and explain how you feel and that you want to work on having even just a coffee date every now and again. They might just take that idea and run with it.

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