Ireland - posted on 10/16/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
My 5 year old daughter has a step mother who wants to cut my daughter's waist length hair. I have never cut her hair ever in her life. Since my ex left when my daughter was 1 years old, his girlfriend (since she was 1 years old) has taken upon herself to cut and trim her hair without consulting me. I myself, have long hair and have always had visions of letting (and keeping) my daughters hair grow to waist length. After many discussions and confrontations regarding cutting my daughters hair, she has sustained from cutting it for the last eight months. It's finally at the length that I have always wanted and low and behold, she wants to cut it again! Except this time she has asked me before just doing it without my permission. (Through my ex of course.)I told him "no," however, I feel she is going to cut it anyway with the excuse that my ex has the right to also make decisions regarding his daughter (who he only has 40% of the time.)
This is just one issue among many with her. (She and my ex also make my daughter call her "mom," which is an entirely different topic...)
I am coming to conclusion that my ex's girlfriend wears the pants in the family and calls the shots (I know my ex and he is laid back and could care less about anything not relating to football, golf and high fructose alcoholic coolers...) She obviously wants to be in control and I am unsure about how to get through to this woman to leave these decisions up to the real mother.
I am, and have been pretty laid back with them for the past years letting them live their lives and leaving them alone, but this is getting silly and I'm tired of it.
The strange thing is she and my ex have a 2 year old son together, so I thought she might able to put herself in my shoes once in a while when it comes to decisions that effect her own flesh and blood, but unfortunately that has not happened.
I have also brought up her "hair cutting hobby" and "mom calling" up in court and no one seems to care...judge, ex or step mom. Wtf. How can I get through to these people? No I don't want you to cut my daughter's hair EVER. I don't cut your son's, do I?
Please help! Need idea's and advice to get through to this control freak!