Brianna - posted on 12/11/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
My daughter is now two months old and even since before she was born my mother in law has been very controlling about the baby. When I was pregnant she would tell my husband that it was her baby to when me and him would discuss decisions we were gonna make when she was born. She would even argue with him when he would tell her the baby was not hers, she is only the grandma. We had to keep the name a secret because every time we would discuss names she would tell us yes or no even when she wasn't a part of the conversation. When our daughter was born we asked everyone not to post pictures on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter ect. I just recently found out that she has been posting pictures on Facebook since the day she was born. To make matters worse she put a picture of me on there in my gown in the hospital and I looked absolutely terrible. She disregards anything my husband asks (he has to talk to her because she speaks no English and I don't know enough Spanish to discuss these things) and that includes when he asks her not to get in our daughters face when she is sleeping, when he asks her to be a little quieter because she can be very loud and that is always right before our daughter is about to take a nap and she ends up getting cranky. My mother in law gets mad whenever we don't stay for longer then 3 hours because we have our daughter on a bedtime schedule so we have to be home by around 7. We also let my parents babysit when we wanted our date night because I 100% trust them. My husbands mom is upset that we didn't leave our daughter with her and that we haven't even asked yet. I do not trust her and I would be worried the entire time if we did that. She doesn't listen when we say our daughters diaper is dirty and when I tell her our daughter is hungry she says no she's not. His mom has told us to leave her there when we go somewhere...she doesn't ask she tells us to and we always say no because our daughter is two months old and we are not leaving her for four hours with someone I do not trust. Whenever we go to visit his mom hangs on to our daughter and doesn't let anyone else hold her until we take her and give her to someone else. Every tim we let his brother or sister hold her they give her to his mom in about three minutes because she tells them to give her our daughter. I think it makes matters worse that we live 2 miles away from them. Thankfully I have my parents living two miles away as well and that have been phenomenal. My mil luckily does not stop by without asking but I think that would be different if she spoke English. I dread every single time that we go to visit. Sorry for the long vent but I have no idea what to do. My husband thinks I am overreacting on some issues and agrees with me on others. He has talked to his mom a lot about issues I have and I think it is a putting a stress on their relationship and I do believe that might be why he hasn't gotten so hesitant about talking to her about things. His mom was not a great mom when he was growing up and he is very careful about saying things that will upset her. I have had to send her lengthy texts about how I feel because that is the only way we can kind of communicate (his sister helps translate the text). I just need some serious advice on what to do and why she is acting like this or am I just overreacting?