Heather - posted on 04/21/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )
So my ex was not around much the last year we were together. Our son was 8 months old. He would go out to parties, bars, and friends. Leaving me with our son while I worked and went to college. He finally left one morning saying he couldn't do this anymore. He works right down the road from where myself and his son lives. He would show up every day after work to check the mail and leave. He didn't even walk down the hall to see his son. I watched my son for 3 nights cry and say daddy, my daddy while laying on his side of the bed. It tore me apart. He finally came around 3 months later and spent an hour with his son while I went grocery shopping. I came home to him on his phone and our son playing by himself on the floor (the way it always was). The ex got up and said, I'm not daddy anymore. He doesn't love me. He then left and said maybe in a few months he would try again. I said no you need a schedule, you can't just come when you want. He doesn't know you anymore BC you're not around enough.
Well now we finally started receiving child support. Our son is almost 2.5 and he wants to start seeing him again, but he will only come around when he wants. What do I do?! I have a new boyfriend and he loves my son so much. My son calls my boyfriend dad and absolutely adores him. We let him warm up to my new boyfriend on his own and one day he wanted to be picked up and he called him Dada.
So how can I justify having his biological dad back in his life when he will not commit to a schedule and will probably only come around every other month? I'm so lost, but I worry for my son.
Also, his biological father is not fit to take care of him in a safe environment. He just sits on his phone or his Xbox.