Coping

Elizabeth - posted on 05/18/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 23 year old daughter was diagnosed with Non Hodgkin Lymphoma this week. What can I say or do for her? Should I tell her brother who was deployed to Afghanistan last week?

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Jodi - posted on 05/18/2013

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I would wait until she has the further testing to tell her brother anything. I understand how difficult this is - my father had NHL about 25 years ago, but with 6 months of aggressive treatment, he received the all clear, and has not had a sign of it since, so hang in there. I know the waiting is difficult, but now is the time to gather the facts, and help her make her choices. There is no point upsetting her brother, who needs to remain focused on his task right now, unless you need to. You don't know the details yet, so I'd wait for those.

As for what you can do, you need to be the support for your daughter. She is probably experiencing a lot of fear and uncertainty right now. You need to stay positive, make sure she gets plenty of rest, and help keep things as normal as possible for her. Let her know you are there, but don't smother her. Make sure she is coping okay, and if not, help put some support in place for her.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/18/2013

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More testing next week. My daughter had several biopsies last Wednesday when a lymph node was removed and also suspicious spots found in the throat area.

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2013

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Hi Elizabeth, sorry your daughter is having to deal with this. I guess my response depends on the type of lymphoma you are dealing with and the stage of the cancer she was diagnosed with. Do you have that information yet? Or is she needing more tests.?

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