Coping without family members....

Joy - posted on 12/10/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a 30 y/o working single mom with a 6 year old son. His father is no longer involved in his life. I work two jobs, one job is an externship full-time during the day then I work 20 hours a week in the evening. I feel like I barely have quality time to spend with my son and I almost never date. The hardest thing to deal with in not having any family in the state. I am only in touch with my older sister and she lives on the opposite coast of me. I have one friend, my best friend, and he wants to be in a relationship with me and I am TOTALLY NOT interested in him that way. I make that very clear, especially verbally. Where it gets worse is that his family is the only family I have ever really had since the 90's. They accept my son and I as family but they would also accept he and I being together, which I tell them no thank you as well. He not the type of man I need relationship wise. He's still 12 y/o in some manners, which I none of us appreciates. There are things I know about him that I'm not going to discuss online but it will never go beyond friendship with he and I. EVER. I hate the thought of it but moving on is a part of growing up. I am not thrilled that I may have to walk away from them, yes he's that persistent, but my sanity comes first. When he tried to kiss me the other day that was my breaking point. How do I walk away from them all without scaring my son? My friend's nephews are the only "cousins" my son has and I don't want to see him get hurt.

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Joy - posted on 12/12/2013

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Thanks BK Hart! No he hasn't threatened me, I just don't appreciate his advances too much and he doesn't see the problem with that which is the issue. My mindset is finish school, get my foot in the dental field and then focus on finding a partner and father figure for my son.

I was writing a longer response when I reread what I wrote and realized your suggestion is very useful. I will definitely be looking in to finding a some kind of community group. Thank you!

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Find other people in your community to be around. I know that won't be easy, but if you can visit a church or community center it might help. Also, you don't mention if you have been threatened by him but if so, please don't hesitate to call your local hotline for support! Hang in there! You sound like an amazing woman and a great mom!

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