Mazy - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I'm sorry about the length...but there's a lot venting & back story that's needed :( So, I posted about my in-law family before, and I got a lot of great & encouraging responses, however, my situation just isn't getting any better & I'm not sure how much I can take!
My husband invited his 19 year old brother to come & live with us two months ago. The kid was having a lot of problems with drugs, parents, life while living in FL & Hubs felt that he'd have better influences if he moved to CT where we are to go to school, etc. Fine. I was mad because I had no say in it, it just happened, but I did agree that the boy needed to leave FL. I never thought he'd be living with us so long!! We live in a 900 sq ft 2 bedroom house. We already have two toddlers & are expecting #3 in just 8 more weeks!! I'm also planning a home birth, so I really don't want so many people living in my house!
Ugg...ok. BIL is sleeping in the middle of my living room floor & most of the time he sleeps in VERY late, doesn't clean up his blankets, plays a lot of loud music from the computer, leaves lighters out that I'm constantly taking away from the kids, and leaves cigarette butts in the yard. So he's here & I'm dealing with it & so far have not blown up. BUT, this kid lost his cell phone in MA, so he just started using mine. At first it was no big deal, but now he even takes it with him when he leaves the house! It's my ONLY phone since we do not have a landline. He also totalled his car two weeks ago, and his rental car has to go back today & so by default he'll start using mine. Last night he was talking about when he "moves out in 3 or 4 years". WHAT?! I was hoping in another week or so!!! When I brought it up to my husband he just kind of threw it off. We even started discussing giving BIL one of the bedrooms & moving either ourselves or the kids to the screened in porch (currently used as a playroom/outdoor area).
Honestly, I am about ready to leave. My husband has been very preoccupied with everyone & everything but his children lately & it's driving me nuts. Having both him & his brother around is driving me nuts! I can't throw the kid out...where will he go? He has a part time job, but doesn't make enough to sustain an apartment. I really can't leave because I'm a SAHM (and pregnant), so obviously I can't sustain an apartment....but there are just too many people in my house & I didn't even ask for it! I've tried talking to my husband several times, but he always changes the conversation or pretty much ignores the situation. When we tried talking to BIL about his behaviour, etc he CRIED! I'm all for helping family, but this is just getting to be too much for me.