Natalie - posted on 08/12/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a 6 year old little boy who is with me 60% of the time (sometimes more). His father and I split in November 2012 when he was just 3 years old. At first the custody was working great..his father would have him every Thursday and every other weekend. His father is in the Army Reserves and has to report one weekend a month for duty (which we always schedule around) so we will be sure to rotate weekends so my son was not with me more than his dad. The agreed custody was every Thursday and then on his weekends his dad would have him from Thursday through Monday morning (when he had to drop him at school). Slowly over time he had to go into work earlier on Monday's so now he drops him off on Sunday's (sometimes mid-day or sometimes after dinner). I had agreed to this at first but when I talk to his dad about it now he says "were not changing it back cause I cant do that". I actually tracked my son's time with his father for the month of May and June and in 51 days my son saw his dad 9 times when it really should have been about 20 over nights. His father has lied to me about why he cant have his son on the weekends using the military as an excuse when in fact i have proof that he went off to party with is friends at the lake. My son plays hockey and his dad says that as long as he sees his son it doesn't matter if he have over nights. There is a lot of issues going on with his dad right now and my son has now seen his dad with his 5th girlfriend in 2 years. Recently my son has been acting out at summer camp, running out of the classroom, not listening to the teachers, he has hit other kids, and his temper is getting the best of him. So we pulled him from the summer camp and thought that time with his grandma (who has been such a great support to him) would be helpful to work with him on how to handle things he may not be happy with and his attitude. Is his fathers inconsistent presence something that could be playing a role in his bad behavior? I have tried spanking him (which kind of worked), we do time outs in the corner (when were at home) but what is something I can do for when he goes to school and after school day care. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks moms!