Could my stupidity have hurt my unborn baby?

Amy - posted on 01/25/2015 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Im 15 weeks pregnant and ive used meth twice. the second time was tonight. If i stopped now do you think my baby will still be ok? Or could i have done irreversable damage? Also, does anyone know if an ultrasound or a test of some kind could tell me if ive damaged my baby this early? thanks everyone and thanks admin for having this space to talk about this stuff x

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Jodi - posted on 01/25/2015

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Actually, the first 3 months are the most vital to your baby's development, as this is when the cells are doing most of their dividing.

If you can't do the right thing when you know you are pregnant, how are you going to cope once the baby is born? How are you going to provide your baby with the positive role model he/she deserves if you can't resist temptation? For the next 18 years, every single choice you make will affect that child you are carrying in one way or another. You don't have a right to be making these poor choices. You are an adult (I assume). You should be able to make good choices without having to live on a secluded island.

I would strongly suggest you go and talk to your doctor about your issues with meth because clearly you have a problem (i.e. addiction) if you can't resist it when you are pregnant. Your doctor may be able to recommend some support groups or help for you. Hopefully there is no damage, but it may also be way too soon to tell. But this is now your chance to turn around and learn to be a good mother - and that isn't just while you are pregnant but includes making responsible choices for many years to come.

Jodi - posted on 01/25/2015

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So your partner is still doing drugs? I wouldn't be bringing my baby home to that environment and it may, in fact, result in having the child removed if it becomes known. Probably a good idea to go somewhere that you have people who love you and care about you enough to wake you up.

Dove - posted on 01/25/2015

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Could it? Yes, absolutely... permanently and severely. Did it? No one on here can tell you for sure. Damage done to a developing fetus does not magically 'cure' itself. Your baby is developing and anything damaging done can very well be permanent. Period.

Now, stressing about what you may have or haven't done to your baby is pointless because there is no changing the past, but you absolutely need to stop the meth, stop it now, and stop it for good. If you can not do that you WILL lose your baby... either by death or to the state at birth.

Go to your doctor... and get some help.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/26/2015

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Amy....I had to bite my tongue A LOT before replying here.

Unfortunately, until the baby is born you will not know what damage you have caused, but even ONE use of meth can cause allergies to necessary medications, antihistamines, etc. It can cause learning disabilities, and developmental problems.

Now, if you've used twice, you can't change that, but you CAN get and stay clean, and you should want to do so for this baby. If you feel that you cannot do this, then please (and I don't EVER advocate this) abort.

Regardless of whether or not you are pregnant, meth will ruin you, so you NEED to get and stay clean.

My husband is a 30 year recovered addict. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! I have another very good friend who's been recovered for 10 years and counting. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

Get yourself into a counseling program, and out of the house that your boyfriend lives in. If this means going to a women's shelter, then do it. They can help you not only get on your feet and into treatment, but also to find physicians, etc.

Remember: YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!

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Marie - posted on 01/29/2015

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Yes actually the first 3 mo are very important. Your babies brain is developing!! I don't even know what to say. My daughter was born with a brain anomaly because I was put on zoloft at 12 wks when that part of the brain is developing.. And I did EVERYTHING by the books quit smoking etc and my daughter has a birth defect because I couldn't handle my anxiety and caved for an anxiety pill cause they wouldn't allow me to take something "natural". The drs told me it was the safest that I could take. I found out about her birth defect when I was 20 wks because I was eligible for a level 2 ultrasound which can find things like this. It's way more advanced. So my answer is yes def I'm sorry. You NEED to stop now. Please try and stop now...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/27/2015

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Amy...are you hanging in there? Are you doing alright?

Katie - posted on 01/27/2015

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Amy you have to quit! I cant tell you if your baby is fine you will have to go to a doctor for that but, If you keep using meth ( which is an extremely heavy drug btw) I do not think your baby will be fine. I knew a women who only drank alcohol two times during her pregnancy about 6 months in, and she miscarried about 7 months in. You have to realize that everything you ingest your baby ingests so please for the sake of your baby quit asap. If you have to go to rehab well go to rehab. If you care about the health of your baby QUIT!!!!!! Unfortunately you may have already caused damage like learning disability's and allergies. You have an option here Amy, you can do right for your baby and quit right now or continue on with doing meth and have to live with yourself knowing you hurt your baby or possibly killed your baby. And for the love of god if you continue on meth and it hurts your child, please do not try to get pregnant again for the sake of anymore unborn children in your future. Sorry if I seem a little crude but honey their isn't a sensitive way to put this YOU NEED TO QUIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shaquan - posted on 01/27/2015

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I did watch this pregnancy tv show that went back to the 90s. This lady did what you did but every night. Sent her to an early delivery. Baby born early. Even though premature babies have a better chance of survival with the right care. You have to thing what it slows down. Growth, baby's brain, survival. Yes if you stop you'll be ok. But if you go to rehab during your pregnancy you'll be better. I've seen terrible thing that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I smoked both ciggs and up to my third month pot. I stop immediately. She came out perfect 7.5' 20" beautiful nothing wrong at all. You can do it.

Gena - posted on 01/26/2015

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Yes YOU CAN change!!!If not for yourself then do it for your baby!!But like the others have said,you wont be able to with your partner. You shouldnt be around him if he is temptating you to do drugs. Doesnt he also want to change for his baby?They could take your baby away if you live in that enviroment. Get clean!Stay clean!Go to rehab or whatever it takes. Suggest your partner could also go to rehab!You could both get clean and do what it takes to be good parents! Honostly i am very ashamed of myself,i didnt quit smoking,i was told to smoke 7 a day..i smoked 5 a day. I was so stupid! Once i had my son i asked myself why was i only so stupid to continue smoking. I could have harmed my son because of a stupid habbit! If i ever fall pregnant again i will definatly quit smoking!! Pls do the best you can for your baby..and yourself!Life can be fun without drugs! Get into rehab or talk to your doctor what possibilities you have. Good luck "You moron" -your words. You dont want your child thinking mom is a moron. If this is your first child..you might not realize exactly what is growing in you..if you knew the love and emotions you will get when baby is born,you would realize that you only want the best and to never harm the baby. My dear,CAN DO IT!!!!! Never give up on yourself!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/26/2015

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Amy, you are being a moron. (your words)

Leave this man. Leave this toxic environment. It is no place to raise a baby, or be pregnant. Go to the doctor. Check yourself into a facility. Move home to where you have support. If you cannot leave this man, at least leave him until you have the baby-drug free- and give the baby up for adoption. Then get your tubes tied, and do all the damage to your body that you want.

Pretty blunt right? But truly these are your options.

You can do this love. You can turn everything around. But you cannot do it with your current partner. PERIOD. Please, go help yourself and your baby. Seek drug counseling, rehab or whatever is available to you. BUT, you need to leave your current situation if you are really serious about trying to be healthy.

If you are just lying to yourself, and you won't do any of the above, please think about permanent alternatives.

Most importantly, YOU CAN DO THIS! But you have to do this NOW. Not tomorrow. Not in a month. NOW. Seriously, I wish you and baby best of luck.

MommyLili - posted on 01/26/2015

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I'm only 15 and never done meth.i'm a huge worry wort.i don't know if it has hurt the baby.but i read in a baby development book that it is not good to take meds or pott ,meth ant thing like that durinh first three months ecspecially.if i were u .i wouldn't do it no more.my friend almost got her baby tooken away from her after it was born cause it had meth and crap in it's sysyem.i

Londonsmommie3 - posted on 01/26/2015

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Yes it can , you honestly need to stop! If your partner is allowing and encouraging this you might need to rethink him being in you and your babys life! As stressful as life can be nothing should be more important to you than your child. .... they are a blessing you will never bond , love or care for anything more in this world more than you will with your seed! I promise you this im a 20 year old new mother and have had my fair share of partying in the past I can relate to an extent! Please talk to your doctor they can help with safe medication to help with depression or any troubles you may be experiencing trust them and be open it will affect your child in the future or now! Best wishes to you and your unborn please take this seriously nobody deserves to suffer over somebodys inability to control there impulses!

Raye - posted on 01/26/2015

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You can't be teleported to a magically safe place, but you can remove yourself from the dangerous situation where you are now to a place that will be less temptation. Your partner obviously cares more about his own wants than he does about you and the baby. You don't need that in your life.

You're smart enough to know it was wrong, so be smart enough to seek the best environment for your baby.

Amy - posted on 01/25/2015

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Thanks. Im sort of on my own in this town my only support is my partner and hes probably more irresponsible than i am. I was a wild one before i fell pregnant though the day i took the pregnancy test i did do a complete 180 and cleaned my act up. I know im responsible but i blame part on my partner he brought it home twice and basically said hes doing some and i guess we both just told each other once wont hurt. I think i need to leave here because on my own drugd are the furthest from my mind. I need people in my life who will tell me im being a moron and who will be honest with me tonight i knew i did the wrong thing thanks for spending ur time being honest

Amy - posted on 01/25/2015

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I guess i somehow convinced myself that as i still have 6 months to go any damage would have time to heal. .
Im really hoping i can make up for what ive done.
i always thought that whenever i fell pregnant id change my ways but im finding it hard, ive cut back but im still smoking 5 cigarettes a day, im not eating as healthy as id always imagined, im putting up with stress, i wish i could teleport to a secluded island designed for pregnant mums so id be safe from temptation and forced to do the right things

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/25/2015

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Unfortunately we cannot tell you, so please seek medical attention and good luck!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/25/2015

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I would really recommend going to the doctor, and discussing what to do. Whether it be an ultrasound, bloodwork or whatever. But please stop doing meth while pregnant, because honestly it just takes one time to harm the fetus. But if no harm has been done, the nest time could be irreversible damage.

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