Court Today...

Christine - posted on 07/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hello,

I'm Christine ...single mom of two I have court today . I left for domestic assault and my kids were in danger among other things , the father is good with his daughter just the people in the house are not good . I do not want to take away his rights to her however I feel if he cared he would get rid of these scary people or help with food or diapers ? Am I wrong here ? My biggest fear is my daughter not having a dad like I did.

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Christine - posted on 07/20/2015

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The best interests of the child the po was dropped today for her , thanks for all your help getting a lawyer for sure . The others have been removed and that's good , I know she will be okay .Thanks for everything

Raye - posted on 07/20/2015

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You need to get the court involved with determining his visitation rights. If they award him visitation, then you can ask for supervised visits, but that doesn't mean the court will decide that way. No matter what they decide, you both need to follow the court orders. If he is not supposed to be around the kids, and he threatens to take them, then you need to bring that to the attention of the court. If you have proof that he is threatening you or the kids (text, voicemail, etc.), then you should let the judge know about it. You should also file for child support if you need financial help.

Kids can be okay without a dad, especially if their dad puts them at risk. Just make sure that your decision making regarding the dad is based on what is in the best interest of the child, and not just your personal feelings toward him.

Christine - posted on 07/20/2015

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There are no orders the da advised who advised of the orders because of the other people in the house . my ex has been violent with me and threatened to taskje thee kids . the children are listen on the orders as well

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2015

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I guess the rights depend on where you live. In many places, being the mother doesn't give you full rights, even out of wedlock. Did a family lawyer tell you this?

Just because you have orders of protection on him against you does not mean those orders extend to the the children.

I'd just hate to see you in trouble for withholding visitation because it can get you in trouble (and I have seen situations where mothers have lost custody for doing this). If you have custody and visitation orders, you still have to follow them unless those orders of protection are either to stop him being near the children.

Christine - posted on 07/20/2015

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There is a order of protection set and from the other people in the house I moved the same day . I'm told I have full rights Bering the mom . I'm also told its a completely different court as well , our child is out of wed lock . The court today is the orders of protection and tomorrow dosmistic assault which the state picked up. I will ask about the supervised visitation. Thank you so much

Jodi - posted on 07/20/2015

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Well, you won't get to take away his rights, because that's actually not your place - that is what the judge will decide. If you don't have custody orders saying he can't see them, then you don't have the right to put a stop to it. Is this court case for custody, visitation, support?

And just remember, there is such a thing as supervised visitation. If you aren't happy with his living arrangements, you CAN push for alternatives so he is still in the children's lives. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.

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