CPS any deal with them?

Kyleigh - posted on 05/14/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Has anyone had to deal with CPS used as a way to get "revenge," on the other parent?

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JuLeah - posted on 05/15/2011

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That is often how they are used .... document and remember, it is not about the child, not about what is best for the child, not about what is 'right' or 'fair', not even about what did or did not happen .... it is about the story you tell, how you come across, what they think of you, their impression of you .... that is all that matters

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Chanda - posted on 08/07/2011

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Yeah, I ran into something similar after a huge arguement with someone I had considered my best friend. I don't make friends easily, so this has been really hard to deal with. It was one thing to have an arguement, although I'm still not sure why sure it got blown out of proportion, but the betrayal of calling CPS was really unexpected. Not that I have anything to hide. The lady that came to see us was very nice and somewhat surprised when she found us at the pool with some of my son's TKD classmates. Apparently she had been told he was completely miserable and borderline suicidal due to the emotional abuse in our house. Kinda funny when she found us laughing an playing in the water. Since he was in his swim trunks it was very obvious there were no signs of physical abuse either, which we were also accused of. Since we moved early this year (to another state no less) and haven't made any really good friends here yet, there's a very limited number of people who would have called - we just don't know people here that well yet - no one we;ve invited into our home yet. Sadly, we had moved here to be close to this best friend after they had moved here a couple years ago.

The worst part is that my son figured out who had to have called based on the questions the lady asked. He cried so hard and asked what he had done to make his aunt hate him so much. So hard to not cry whith him and not bad mouth her at the same time. I finally just told him to pray for her and that hopefully she had just misunderstood something and was trying to make sure he was safe.

CPS should not be used to get back at someone or because you're angry. There are children out there that NEED help and unfortunately aren't getting it because of bogus calls like this one. What a waste of time and resources.

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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your right JuLeah in most cases they dont actually care about the children. I personally told the 100% truth for one I dont believe in lying and I came across hwoever I came across, told them how it was what I did and if they didnt like it too bad, because it wasnt illegal and they left me be

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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its ok it doesnt matter :) They knew it wasnt true so that it all that mattered in the end

Mel - posted on 05/15/2011

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yes I have had to deal with them, but not because of a family situation. some ladies on here actualy called them because they were angry that I ahd apparently said something from one of their secret groups? Anyhow it is nothing to worry about. It is called DCP where I am from and they basically asked me to stop coming on here to avoid anymore time wasting stuff, they said they were sick of geting the calls. I woudlnt stress :) Your kids wont get taken and they dont tend to even investtigate if they see your kids are happy and healthy

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Yes, unfortunately. Since my ex-husband is a social worker, he was able to get a CPS social worker to interview our daughter right away without my knowledge and the CPS social worker came to my home unannounced to interview me a week later. My ex-husband's claims had no basis, so there was nothing to investigate, and the social worker asked me for the contact information of two neighbors; only one I know well enough that could speak to my parenting skills, and I gave him the contact info of a good friend. He interviewed only my neighbor and, as a former teacher who has seen serious child neglect, did she give him a hard time! A friend of mine also experienced the same situation, only the accusation was that her daughter, who is home schooled, was not attending school. She had the advantage of a scheduled interview, unlike me. It is nerve-wracking, but if it is an unsubstantiated claim, there is nothing to worry about, and make sure you have spoken with at least two people who know you well and are willing to be interviewed about you so you are prepared to give the social worker their names and phone numbers. Wishing you much luck & blessings.

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