Crazy Baby Daddy.! I Dont Know What to do

Mariyah - posted on 10/01/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am a 22 year old college student. I just got 3 new jobs, and my son is 5 months old. I am striving to make a good life for my family. Now my son's father.... He's a character. He talks about making a good life for his family, but when it comes to actions, he's a bum. He doesn't apply to jobs. He struggles to find a place to sleep every night. And his anger is outrageous, I hate it.! I've spoken to him numerous times about getting a job and bringing in some type of income to help his family. He always has some excuse why things aren't working out. Every step I've taken to help our family has crumbled in his hands. I got a brand new car right before I had my son. A month after my son was born, he totalled the car with me and my son in the backseat. He promised to get us a new car... but excuse after excuse. Then I've gotten phones, and he'll steal my phone, break them, etc. All over his anger issues. Not to mention we're in a steady cycle of abuse and sorry's. He swears I'm cheating and some more, but who has time to cheat when they're a full time college student taking care of a brand new baby, and now working 3 jobs. I'm at the final straw. I know I need to get rid of this man, but how do I leave someone as persistent as he is. He knows where all my classes are, and no matter how many times I tell him we're done, he always pops up and acts like everythings a-okay. He knows where I live. And he knows my whole life schedule pretty much.

How do I leave him? How do I live my life and make a life for my son without worrying about this manboy popping up whenever he wants and causing more damage to everything I try to do?

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Sarah - posted on 10/02/2015

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If he stalks you file a restraining order and document his every appearance with your phone. Shake off the dead weight and move forward.

Dove - posted on 10/01/2015

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Yep. Go to court for custody, visitation, and child support... and seriously consider going to the police and getting a restraining order to keep him from harassing you.

Jodi - posted on 10/01/2015

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I was just confused as to why he had to get you a new car if there was insurance, that's all. File for child support. He doesn't have to support you, but he should be contributing to supporting his son. However, that could be difficult if he has no income. Basically, get that lawyer and file. That's all you can do.

Mariyah - posted on 10/01/2015

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I had insurance, so they paid for everything. But the fact that he crashed the car months ago and still hasnt contributed a single dime to help the situation

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2015

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Like Evelyn said. Get yourself a lawyer, maybe he will leave you alone if a lawyer is involved.

Jodi - posted on 10/01/2015

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Why didn't you have insurance on the car? Just a suggestion for next time.

Anyway, why are you still with this man? You have 3 jobs, he isn't contributing, it is like you have a second child.

Unfortunately, however, you don't now get the choice on whether this man is in your child's life. You don't have to have a relationship with him, but you do have to coparent with him forever. That's what happens when we have a baby with someone. You can't just cut him out.

File for custody and visitation orders as well as child support. Your child still has a right to get to know his father, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with his crap either. If he is harrassing you, or you feel harrassed, get protection orders, but that still doesn't mean you get to cut him out of your child's life.

Ev - posted on 10/01/2015

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Get a lawyer, file for custody, visitation, child support, and follow the court orders.

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