Crazy Mom of my son's girlfriend.....

Dianne - posted on 05/16/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Please someone shed some light on this problem...My 16 year old son has been dating a nice girl now for about 8 months. The girls mother is CONSTANTLY trying to interfere with my relationship with my son. She takes him out of school without my permission and takes him on overnight "anniversary" dates just about every month. She took him to visit numerous colleges without my knowledge. She brought him a Starbucks the other day without even asking when he was sick. She even tried to take him to his AP Stats testing just today....however I was able to intervene on that one. I have tried to talk to her, but she continues to interfere without even caring. When I talk to my son, he says that if he doesnt do what she says, then she wont let him see his girlfriend. Its concerns me because this sounds like she is obsessed with my son. She is always taking photos of him and posting them all over Facebook.....the list goes on and on.......any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.....oh and she tried to take him to the doctors the other day when he was sick, but his father said no and this mom through a big temper tantrum!!!!!

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Reggie - posted on 03/18/2013

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Call the cops. Check his cell and make records. Check email, make copies. The woman is sick and can ruin your sons' future by controlling his young life now. You and his father need to meet with both parents. Present evidence. Keep doing it. Tell everyone. This is an obsessive manipulator who cons everyone and will not stop until it is no longer worth her while. You will be left with his emotional mess. Same thing happened to my kid and I could not believe it could get as serious as it did. There are crazy people out there who can and will hurt your kid through their own extreme neediness.

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Medic - posted on 05/16/2012

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Your son is showing signs that he IS NOT ok and you should try to get him into counceling to find out what is REALLY going on.

Dianne - posted on 05/16/2012

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The more I try to work things out, the worse it gets.....she seriously needs to focus on her own kids and leave mine alone.....thinking about some counseling or therapy for me to help deal with the stress :) My son sees this as a way to "deal" with life. I have contacted a lawyer and am in the process of pursuing legal action against her..in the meantime, my son seems to be suffering (getting sick all the time, seems a little depressed). I have tried to talk to him, but he just keeps saying that he is okay...

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/16/2012

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Ok, first, the school needs to be contacted about releasing him to someone other than custodial parents. That's a BIG no-no in our school district.

Second, have you met this woman? Spoken with her? Told her that her obsessive, controlling behavior is unacceptable? And that you would be well within your rights to go to the law, get a restraining order, and report her for possible pedophile actions? Because that's what I'd do.

NO ONE, but NO ONE should be doing these things with your boy, except for you and his father. The school is in violation of federal laws if they are releasing information/schedules, etc to her without your express written permission. That's FERPA. The testing centers should not accept another adult in lieu of yourself/husband without express written consent.

However, how can she take him out of town "without your knowledge"??? Doesn't your son tell you what he's doing, and where he is?

So, basically, what you're saying is that this woman kidnaps your kid, takes him out of the city, takes him for sometimes days at a time without your permission and you haven't turned her in because "your son wouldn't get to see his girlfriend"???

Turn the woman in for this crap. Sexual harassment (pictures of your male child taken by an inappropriately older female). Kidnapping (taking him out of the city without your express permission). Violation of federal regulations (getting the school to give her information) And Stalking.

And if your kid doesn't get to see that girl any more, in my view, oh well. If her mother is that unhinged, she may not be far behind.

Although (and you need to consider this angle as well) your son could be playing the "victim" to her: "My mom won't let me" and getting her to do things for him, or get around permissions that you would not grant. And you have to look at that side before you go escalating the situation to her. Does she thing she's helping your son with things that you won't permit???

Medic - posted on 05/16/2012

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Wow......I would put a big stop to all of this. I would contact the school and tell them that no one other than yourself and his father can take him out. I would also tell your son that this is NOT normal behavior and that this needs to change. Lastly I would be having it out with this girls mom.

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