Crazy pregnancy hormones or a justified feeling?

Cecilia - posted on 09/30/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So I'm about 5 weeks away from delivering our second child together, and my husband just recently started working a month ago our schedules are completely opposite so I hardly see him anymore except on days off and few hours before he goes to work.



My question is



Is it wrong to want him to devote all his time to me when he's here?

I get he works hard and all but I am feeling very emotionally needy at this time!!! I cry the next minute I'm mad, then crying again.....



He may not understand everything I'm feeling but I want to tell him so many things like how even though it's nothing bad and completely innocent I don't like when he comments or likes a photo of a highschool friend that's a girl even though these girls have families of thier own I don't care I don't want them liking my husbands photos I don't know them so is that a jusitified feeling?



How would he feel if some guys that I went to highschool with starting saying oh what a cute or beautiful pic of you to me that's just wrong but I don't have anyone on my friends list from highschool or former loves or anything.... So he should make me feel better and remove anything that makes me feel uncomfortable right? I would do the same for him... It may sound a little insecure and jealous of me but so what thats my man I don't want any other woman commenting about my family that I don't personally know.!!!! We have been married 5 years..

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Bobbie - posted on 10/01/2012

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yep, you got it Cecilla, it is a lot of pressure to try to live up to being someone's everything. He needs friends and to communicate with others so he doesn't feel smothered. You need others so you feel a part of something bigger than just the little world you have with him and your babies.

I say the social networks are a big problem with couples. They cause a lot of mistrust and fights.

If you look too much at what he is expressing you will just drive yourself crazy. Get a little more friendly with those around you. Think positive thoughts, tell yourself everyday that you are worthy of love and that you love yourself. It raises your self awareness of how good you can make yourself feel

Good luck, have a healthy baby!

Cecilia - posted on 09/30/2012

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@ Bobbie Yes but he comments and likes these peoples photo's gives them compliments. I don't always act like this I barely see him anymore I didn't even say anything about it to him yet, I did however get mad today because every time he's here he's on his phone. I guess I can see how he would be annoyed and not really wanna spend time with me if I'm acting like that but it hurts cause I have no family here and he's like my everything which I know is unhealthy too.

Bobbie - posted on 09/30/2012

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I am sorry but I don't agree that he should remove anything that makes you feel uncomfortable if it is others commenting. He can't control what others say.

He may not feel he is able to spend time with you because you aren't being yourself. Wanting to be cuddled and play tickle feet while in a happy fun mood and asking him to hang out with you is different than asking him to be there when you aren't feeling like yourself, wanting company because you are miserable. It is hard to be around a woman who is ready to jump down your throat one minute and then wanting you to hold her the next. Getting through the next 5 weeks and giving him some distance may actually help him feel better about giving you some extra time. It is so much nicer for both of you if he does it when it is his idea. If you are saying "it's never his idea" then I say, give the guy a break from the hormones and pay attention to his moods as well as your own.

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