crib to toddler bed transition troubles anyone!?

Kelly - posted on 04/11/2012 ( 83 moms have responded )

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I just switched my daughters crib into her toddler bed and so far she goes to bed no problem at bed time which is at 8-8:30pm every night. but then she wakes up between 2 and 3:30 in the morning and screams and cries either for me to let her come sleep in bed with me and my husband or to stay up and play. I have changed her diaper, and gotten her back to sleep multiple times but then as soon as I leave her room, she's up and follows me back to my room. My daughter will be 2 this July and she's climbing out of her crib with and without the dresser being beside her bed. And on top of her getting up in the middle of the night, she wakes up her brother, and plays until sometimes 4-4:30am. I am so exhausted in the mornings when my kids decide, "hey, it's 6:30 in the morning, time to wake up mommy!!" My daughter also has a very healthy appetite, and i know for a fact she's full before she goes to bed at night. And she gets her bottle of milk at night while she goes to bed. I dont know what could be possibly waking her up in the middle of the night....Any suggestions ladies?

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Amber - posted on 04/11/2012

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I had the same problem with my son when I transitioned him to a toddler bed at 18 months. He was climbing out of his crib by then and had already dislocated his shoulder because of it, so I can see why you'd put her in one. As for how to fix it, I just kept getting up with him and eventually getting him back to bed, but I wouldn't let him play or watch cartoons or anything. If he was hungry, I'd offer him something healthy and if he didn't want that or water, then he went right back to bed and I stood by his bed until he went back to sleep. Other times, he just wanted me to read him a book or sing him back to sleep. Some kids have trouble with change, that's all. There's really not a lot else to be done, except keep telling her, it's bed time and that she needs to stay in bed. She'll get it eventually.

Tracie - posted on 04/13/2012

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I'm assuming she slept through the night in the crib? I waited until my girls were about 2 1/2 and then we put the bed and the crib in the room and let them choose. Made it seem like it didn't matter to us either way. They both picked the bed the first night and after two weeks, we moved the crib out. Put the power in her hands and she'll be more likely to be ok with the transition. Good luck!

Jamie - posted on 04/11/2012

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My son would constantly come out of his room or get out of bed, I finally just started closing his door all the way so he couldn't get out. He would throw a fit in the beginning because our problem was the opposite, he sleeps no problem, it's the getting to sleep that is the issue. There were nights he would get up 10x and not fall asleep until after 11 and he goes to bed at 8:00. He would fall asleep by the door or baby gate, whichever I put up that day. My 18 month daughter I tried to transition and she slept great at night but wouldn't stay in at nap time so I put it back as a crib. She does however cry out on and off all night long. I used to get up all of the time, now I just ignore her. If she really wants me, she lets me know but most of the time she just cries a bit and falls right back asleep. I would suggest putting a baby gate at the door if you leave the door open or start closing it, turn off the night light if you have one and let her cry it out a little and see what happens. One thing I've learned have 3 under 3 is that when they can get what they want, they will not stop trying. Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 04/13/2012

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Have you tried 'SuperNanny's' technique, first time they scream or get up tell them calmly its bedtime and put them back in bed and give them a kiss, next time they get up don't speak to them other than 'goodnight', each subsequent time don't make eye contact or speak, just lead them back to bed,.... might be hard for a night or two but eventually they'll get the message that night time is sleep time only, not play time or mummy time. My son has been in a bed since 15 months and has only got out of bed a handful of times - he knows the routine and we make going to bed fun

Adrean - posted on 04/11/2012

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I had the same problem with my daughter. She was waking up in the middle of the night and wouldn't go back to sleep. She'd be up until 4 or 5 in the morning. After months of not knowing what to do I finally called her pediatrician (whos words I feel are gospel) and he told me to cut out her stimulation after her bath (read books no tv) cut back on her sugar intake (reg. milk instead of chocolate) make sure nothing is on the floor or in her room that can hurt her and put her to bed.End of story. He said it would take about 3 nights to squash the problem. He said when you put her in bed explain that she needs to be a "big girl" and stay in her bed and go to sleep. She will lay there and cry and scream. She may make herself sick. She will get up and run into your room or lr a hundred times but you put her back tell her goodnight and you love her and She will wear herself out and eventually fall asleep. You can go in her room and tell her its ok and that its time for bed just to reassure her that you didn't go anywhere. IT WORKED exactly 3 nights for us! I hadn't slept even 6 hours a night for months and now get at least 8 hours. If I go to bed early enough lol Now if she does wake up in the middle of the night for whatever reason she yells for me and whatever she wants like milk water or potty she gets and goes right back to sleep but she NEVER gets out of bed unless I say its ok. IT WORKS if you can have enough will power to be consistant and get through the first few days....easier on a weekend! Good Luck!

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Mara - posted on 04/26/2012

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I switched my son to a twin bed 1 week after his 2nd birthday. He has always been a good sleeper. 12 - 14 hr nights from 3 months on. The 1st night he got out of his bed 1x & I walked him back into his room & told him he's not allowed out of his bed until it is light outside. He never got out of bed again. I was shocked! He's the most stubborn child I've ever met (lucky me) but he's never fought me on bed. We did get him a little tikes twin size race car bed (he's very into cars) w/ hotwheel sheets. Maybe that's what made the difference??? We also have a humidifier running in his room @ night to drown out any noise. Best of luck & hope you can get some sleep!

Ana - posted on 04/25/2012

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the same thing happened with my 2 year old. We put a guard rail and she would not get out of the toddler bed. Only issue is she would wake up every night between 2 and 4. We finally bought a bed from IKEA that is wider than hers was and longer (it expands). She loves it and sleeps through most nights in her bed. Does she toss and turn too much? My daughter would sale up when turning because she was too big for the bed. Hope it helps. Good luck, there will be a solution soon.

Lori - posted on 04/25/2012

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I'm not sure if I have it right, but it sounds like the crib was converted to a toddler bed. I had the same with my kids. I potty trained them at 22 months, and my middle son was the only one that did not transition well. I converted the crib to a toddler bed a couple months before I potty trained just so there wasn't too much change all at once. What I ended up doing was cable tying a bed rail onto the toddler bed. It was the perfect fit because there was 9-10 inches at one end, which is the recommendation on the bed rail. Also when it did come time to potty train, my middle son was the only one that would get up in the middle of the night to go pee, and then go right back to bed on his own! It allowed him the comfort of the bed rail and his space, as well as the ability to get up when he needed to. We had it like that for about 4-6 months, and then he wanted it off all together. I wish you lots of luck in finding what works best for your little one!

Angela - posted on 04/24/2012

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If she's climbing out of the crib, it's time to transition. What I did with both of my girls was to get a doorknob cover and put it over her doorknob. Then, they can't get out of the room. Make sure there isn't anything in her room that could hurt her. Make sure she has access to a few books or toys. The first time she wakes up and starts crying, go to her and tell her sternly that she needs to go to sleep in her bed now. Give her a toy or some books and tell her she can look at a book or play with toys for a little while but she has to go to sleep in her bed. Then leave. Do not go back in the room. A few nights of this and she will get it. Both of mine did. They were both in toddler beds around age 2. You can always reward her at the end of the week with a "sleepover" with mom or a toy or something. She's getting to the "big girl" age and will enjoy having her freedom and her "big girl bed." It may be hard at first, but she will get it. Trust me. I've done it twice with my girls.

Kelly - posted on 04/24/2012

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thank you all for the wonderful suggestions!!! I have started putting her to bed first before her brother. So far it works amazingly. she has been doing great with the taking her by the hand, and putting her back into bed without saying a word to her!! and she does very well if she wakes up at night too because she doesnt realize her brother is in his bed sleeping!! :)

April - posted on 04/16/2012

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OMG This method is absolutely perfect for my 2-year-old. She is highly intelligent and talked a little late, so now you can see in her eyes that her brain is working on how to disobey us. When we crouch down to her eye level, hold her face in our hands (gently) to encourage eye contact, and lay down a simple rule, she GETS IT right away. Then she will walk to whatever the issue was and do it again to see if we really mean it. She gets it every time (we take away "priveleges" like playing with certain favorite toys, try to make it relate to the issue, though).

My husband and I were noticing that she's almost the length of the Pack 'N Play, so we need to move her to a toddler bed. For my daughter and her temperament, this method is genius! Thanks for posting, Kelly!

Pamela - posted on 04/14/2012

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Children go through "phases" just like adults. Think of the last "phase" you went through. It's a natural phenomena and not so much to be worried about. She's also almost 2 and at that age children do tend to be "contrary" as far as parents wants and needs are concerned.

Ever hear of the "terrible twos"? She's there. The terrible twos actually go from 18 months sometimes up to age 3.5. Most of the time the shift stops at 3.

"Chil;dproof" her sleeping area, and if possible separate her from the younger child so he doesn't fall into a strange sleeping pattern. When she follows you out of the room, BE FIRM and put her back in her space. She shouldn't be able to open doors by herself yet.

From what I observe with parents today, most of then don't understand how to be firm and assert themselves as parents. For some reason they seem to "cave in". Perhaps it is because society has gotten lax in so many ways. I have always found that children really DO appreciate boundaries when they are firmly and consistently applied. That's what they are always testing.....their boundaries and yours!

Hopefully you will be a bit more firm without any guilt. The highest and best to you and yours!

Amy - posted on 04/13/2012

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What I did is placed a single bed right next to the toddler bed. So I put my son to sleep and he is in his toddler bed and I am in the single. As soon as he is asleep, I slip out and go to my bed. Then if he wakes up (which he does every night either at 3 or at 4:30) I just go back over and fall asleep in the single. He goes back to his bed. Also, I do not have a night light in his room. If he even sees a light, he figures he can get up. It has to be pitch black. I did this with my 4 year old and he sleeps all through the night AND he sleeps in his own bed since he was around 2 and 1/2. I'm doing the same with my 2 year old. I had to do this because my son crawled out of his crib and fell and broke his shoulder. He had to transition early because of his crawling out of his crib.

Maxine - posted on 04/13/2012

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I have learned all of this in my parenting class also, it is very helpful... and gives great tips

Alisha - posted on 04/13/2012

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When our son was 2, we made the transition as well. We would put him in his toddler bed but at some point he would come back to our bed in the middle of the night. We would let him stay and eventually, within a few months, he didn't get out of his bed as much until he stopped. He is now 4 and has his own room in which he sleeps the whole night in.

Amy - posted on 04/12/2012

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I don't know my twins was almost 4 before they started sleeping in a regular bed. So I don't know what advice I can give you.

Jeannie - posted on 04/12/2012

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My son was 19 months when he made the switch. He was climbing out and trying to climb back in! I held him when he got up and put him back to bed. My son was a little more complicated because he had some medical issues and sometimes needed to sleep sitting up. As far as playing I took a big tub and fild it with all his toys and put it in my closet. Be careful because he thought if mommy takes those away I'll play with my clothes and climb on my dresser :(

He is three now and still will get up sometimes for bread or milk or extra loves. I found offering cuddles worked better than crying. Not all babies do well with the cry-it-out thing. My son is a human snuggler, where as my daughter can be comforted sometimes with boobary and blanky.



BIG NOTE if your daughter is a climber be careful with the gate, my son moved his chair, toy garage, or anything else he could think of to climb over the gate. He fell so hard he had to go to the dr. My father in law tied a broom to the door so my sone could not get out. Escape artist anyone? :)) We stayed close to the door just in case but after one or two nights he got the idea. Now if he gets out of bed not for a good reason, I ask if I need to put the broom up and he stays in bed.

Katy - posted on 04/12/2012

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I've found routine is the key. We transitioned my oldest (4 1/2) to a twin bed with a rail when she was 2. We only transitioned her because we needed the crib for a new addition. We never had any issues because we kept the routine the same as when we put her to bed in her crib. We did put a gate across her door because I was worried about her getting up in the dark and hurting herself. We don't use the gate now as she might need to use the potty in the night. I agree you need to just keep putting her back in bed. She'll get the hang of it.

Karen - posted on 04/12/2012

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At this point its probably habit more than anything else. Unfortunately sleep training would probably be the quickest way to get it to stop but that would require consistency and commitment for a week or two.

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My 22 month old is still in her crib and has never attempted to climb out but if she did it would be impossible because she sleeps ina sleeping bag. Maybe you could move her back to her crib with a sleeping bag in she would not be able to climb out. If that doesn't work just keep on with a consistent routine at night. She needs to understand night time is not for playing. You might have to spend a couple of nights putting her back in bed every time she gets out no matter how upset she gets. Of course after taking care of any needs, wet diaper etc. Good luck!

Natalie - posted on 04/12/2012

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I have just changed my little boys cot in to a bed and he is just coming up to 2years old and haven't had the same problem but he likes to test us by not going to sleep straight away he does however cry out in the middle

Of the night as well but seems to settle bck straight dwn I had the same problem

With my daughter who is now 10 i put her in a bed at 18months she use to want to sleep on with us and in the end I had to do the take by the hand and led straight bck to bed without talking to her and making no eye contact at all it took me the best part of a night to get her stay in her own bed but it worked the following night she got out once took her back and she settled straight bck dwn. Hope U get this ressolved as I know how hard it can be on yourself x

User - posted on 04/12/2012

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She may have difficulty with change. A good majority of people do (adults). I use white noise to help little ones fall asleep. If they wake during the night, I turn back on the white noise and lay down with them until they fall back to sleep. NO LIGHTS. NO TALKING. Works every time. Eventually they get the idea and sleep through the night.

M - posted on 04/12/2012

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I feel your pain. I would put her back in a crib. And put a crib tent on it. Our son will be 3 in July and he is still in his crib, although we have taken the tent off because he understands that he will hurt himself if he falls. He climbed out once and fell. He is one of those kids who will run you ragged in the middle of the night if you let him. Once he screamed for 2 hours straight because he wanted to come into bed with me. I changed his diaper, gave him some milk, turned on the white noise, etc etc. We had weeks of that nonsense and I was so tired. Unfortunately, it seems like "sleep training" is the way to go with this problem. That is, do not allow your child to come into bed with you, engage in play with you, demand things, etc, in the middle of the night. I will reasure him from the door verbally and of course give him water or a diaper change if needed. Other that that, let them scream. It's annoying but everytime you respond to yelling and demanding in the middle of the night, you are reinforcing the child's opinion that they run the show and that mom will respond to yelling. And then everyone is tired in the morning!

If you don';t want to put her back in a crib, put a baby gate on the door to her bedroom. Although, honestly, I would recommend hauling the crib out again.

Jenna - posted on 04/12/2012

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I used to think I knew all the answers for sleep issues. With my older four children, I hardly had any problems at all with sleep. They napped well, they slept well at night from the time they were small babies. The transition to the toddler bed went well too. That is, until I had my fifth child,who is now 13 months old. He does the same thing your daughter is doing, only he's still in a crib, so he doesn't come out to get me or anyone else. He goes to bed fine at night, but around 3-4 a.m., he wakes up crying and sometimes doesn't ever go back to sleep. I've tried rocking him back to sleep, but he'll wake up and cry as soon as I put him back down. I've tried pulling him into the bed with me, but all he wants to do is play. I've tried just ignoring him, but it's hard to ignore constant crying, plus I don't want him to wake up everyone else in the house.

I wish I had a suggestion for you, but I'm totally at a loss as to what I should do myself. Maybe I can just offer an ear for you to gripe to? Anytime I try to find someone to talk to about this problem, all anyone tells me is, "Oh my kids never wake up at night and were all perfectly sound sleepers from the start." And all that does is make me, in my sleep-deprived state, want to smack them in the face.

I hope you figure it out. If I get any insight, I'll post it!

Christy - posted on 04/12/2012

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If she is falling asleep on her own in the toddler bed I don't think that is the problem! my son is 2 and he has been sleeping out of his crib for some time now he falls asleep on his own. but he does also get up sometimes around 2 or 5 and wants a drink or food! no matter how much he ate the day before! I have asked my doctor about it she just says to make sure your not leaving a tv on for them to fall asleep to. which I don't but he still gets up! so if you find a solution let me know! lol Im about to have my 2nd child in june and i just know my son is going to start waking up the baby if he keeps doing this!
sorry I was no help!

Kylie - posted on 04/12/2012

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@Alyssa you could try putting him to bed, then when you go to bed sleep in his room for a couple of nights ( maybe on a weekend when you don;t have to work ) that way when he wakes at night you are right there and he may then learn to settle in his bed at night and sleep threw :) Hope it helps

User - posted on 04/12/2012

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My son will be 2 in June and we have almost exactly the same problem.. he hated cribs... sleeps good in a toddler bed but also goes to bed at 8 and is up and crying to come into our room by 1 or 2... and he has been waking up between 4 and 7 in the morning all ready to be up for the day. Since I work I dont take the time to put him back to sleep just bring him into bed with me but if anyone has a solution i would love to know also!

Bonnie - posted on 04/12/2012

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Oh and I just wanted to add that our boys never tried to climb out of their crib and we still switched them.

Bonnie - posted on 04/12/2012

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We switched our boys at 20 months and 18 months and they has no problems. Months later they started waking in the middle of the night. I honestly think it is just a stage and it has nothing to do with being in a toddler bed. It could be things like separation anxiety and having bad dreams and once they are up they don't necessarily want to go back to bed. I wouldn't just keep pushing the fact that those times are times for sleeping and she has to stay in her bed. Eventually she will get it.

Allison - posted on 04/12/2012

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Far too young is not the issue, she just said the child was climbing out of the crib - that could be dangerous! Maturity has nothing to do with it when safety is an issue. Just give her some advice and if you don't have any, dont try to make her feel like crap.

User - posted on 04/12/2012

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My son is 19 months and aside from escaping from his pack and play, he so far hasn't tried to escape his crib. That being said, I don't think either of us are ready for him to have the freedoms to come and go out of his toddler bed. A friend suggested that when the time comes that he tries to climb out, turn the crib around (provided one side is higher than the other). That way the higher side is facing out and he'll probably not be able to maneuver his way out. You may want to try it.

Tiffany - posted on 04/12/2012

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She is NOT to young for a toddler bed, it is all about being firm with her, my daughter is 2, and I put her in a toddler bed at the age of 18 mths because she to was climbing out of her crib and I was worried about her hurting herself. My child goes to bed btw 9-30 and 10, and she to wakes up around 3. Depending on how tired I am (I am 8 mths preggo) sometimes I let her crawl in bed with my husband and me, but most of the time I walk her back to her bed maybe give her another cup of milk and tell her it's doe-doe time. Most of the time she goes back to sleep right away, sometimes she gets up and puts her tv on (there is always a DVD on repeat) and watchs tv till she falls back asleep. I also have a baby gate up that blocks her from being able to access the rest of the house.

Natalie - posted on 04/12/2012

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In my opinion 8/8.30pm is far too late especially if she is up at 6.30am, I would have her in bed by 7pm and have her milk in the lounge not in her bed, does she have a nice quiet wind down period before bed with no tv and lots of quality time with you? when she wakes sit with her and help her to go to sleep and gradually move closer to the door until you are sitting outside the door but she knows you are there.

Chandra - posted on 04/11/2012

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@Sherri-Im walking away from this Thanks though =)

Other than the suggestions I gave I really dont have anything else cause my son has always slept through the night He was born 3.5mts early came home at 3mts on a 4 hour schedule he loves his sleep!! After 1 month of being home was sleepig through the nights! I see rough mornings in his middle and high school year in our future!!

I agree with the schedule my son and I pretty much keep to the same schedule every day as close as possible. He take a 1 hour nap no more than 1.5hr I have a CD that plays once through when he first goes down on night that he does wake up I give him another sippy either of water or milk depending on whats going on...growth spurt or sick and turn the CD back on and do what I call a Lutheran cross in between his eyes so up and down his nose and back and forth his eye brows He has a thing for the tags that comes on things like the care for tags so I always make sure I have a blanket or one of his stuff animals available with one on it He only has to have it to hold for a little bit My son will lay in bed and sing and talk to himself so I just will let him as soon as I hear him getting up I go in and tell him it is bed time and he needs to lay down and stay in bed in a firm stern voice He has a fake animated marine lamp that I let him know he has one more chance either go to sleep or I will take his lamp out of his room. I think just figuring out what works for your child and yourself is what you need to do and also keep in mind that what you pick may also affect what happens later ei co sleeping moving her into your room always going to her right away moving her back into a crib. I hope you can find something that helps!!

Meghyn - posted on 04/11/2012

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I've read several of the responses to your post and I'm surprised at how many people are telling you that your child is too young to be in a toddler bed and at the risk of getting told my child was way too young I'm going to post anyway because this is what worked for us.

My son is now 2 but first transitioned into his toddler bed when he was 15 months old. The first night was very difficult just because he thought being able to get in and out on his one was the most amazing thing in the world but that night and any night I've had an issue since then I've used the Nanny 911 or Super Nanny method (i cant remember which nanny show it was from but it works) I sit on the floor with my back to his bed and if he gets out I simply pick him up and place him back in his bed with out saying a word. I slowly move away from the bed until I'm out of his room. I've not had to do this in months but I'm a single mom and he does go back and forth from me to his dad so sometimes he needs reminding that he cant get away with certain things at Mommy's house. Its time consuming but not very frustrating. You kow when your child is ready for the transition and in my personal opinion I wouldn't keep my child in a crib until they are 3 just because its a lot of work and you do lose sleep with the transfer. My son turned two on st patricks day and is already potty trained too so for anything and everything you do with your child follow the cues you get from them, don't go with whats easiest or most convenient for you, which obviously your not and I think switching back to a crib would only confuse her. Good Luck I hope this helps!!

User - posted on 04/11/2012

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You can try the flower trick, 3 flowers and she has to give 1 every time she up and once she has no more, no more out of bed. Try reading to her. My daughter is 2 and had the same problem. We make sure she is well fed, nice warm bath then some reading time. We had to deal with some nights of crying, but she had to stay in bed at bed time. More or less a matter of her getting used to it.

User - posted on 04/11/2012

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For my son I keep him on a schedule. While I cook dinner his sisters will play with him. Then we all sit down at the dinner table. After dinner I give him a lavender bubble bath. I let him play in the water till it starts to get cold. I put his pj's on and let him get rid of his wiggles by putting a favorite song on. After that it's lights out with a little bed time story! It works for us it might work for you! Just try it a few times.

Beckie - posted on 04/11/2012

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Try this: turn on music,very low in your daughters room. Place toddler bed where crib was. Move naps up an hour and bedtime back an hour. Take your baby to the store and let her pick out a new blankie and night light. Make a huge fuss over her new things that are just for her at bedtime or nap time. It make take a few days and night of adjustment for you and her but the reward is a better nights sleep for all! I have a 12 yr old son and a 2 yr old son, it worked for them both. God bless you and good luck.

Wendy - posted on 04/11/2012

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By the way did I mention he is number 5 child out of 6?! Think I would have learnt by now lol

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2012

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I am a big supporter of co-sleeping.. My kids are now 20,16 and 13..well adjusted and we were all well rested:)

Tamara - posted on 04/11/2012

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I put my daughter in double jammies. Light ones underneath. Heavy over top. My girl doesn't sleep under covers. : ) She wakes up if I don't remember to turn the heater on. Could help...



ALso, the transition for my girl was very slow. I gave her a choice of bed or crib every time until she fully transitioned. Don't know if that's an option for you.



When my girl gets up around 3 am, I go to the couch with her and we each go to our own beds after a snuggle or a cup of drink/bottle. She's not getting up every night, but when she does, that's our routine. NEVER to my bed, no matter how much she believes otherwise! LOL!

Kylie - posted on 04/11/2012

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When I transitioned my kids from cot to bed, I made sure they where in a toddler bed with a rail. I figured that this was less of a change than a full single bed, with no rail, but I made sure there was a single bed in there room as well, so if they where sick or had nightmares etc. I would be able to sleep in the single bed, removing any temptation to allow them to come in to bed with us. I also used a child safety gate at the bedroom door and an alarm clock to aide me. At bed time the gate was put up and the alarm set for the same time every morning, when the alarm went off the gate was removed and they where free to come and go from there rooms as they pleased. Once they started night time toilet training the saftey gate was no longer used but we taught the kids that unless they where going to the toilet they where not to leave there room untill they heard the morning alarm go off. Maybe you could try this? Hope it helps and you get a good night sleep soon :)

Wendy - posted on 04/11/2012

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I just had to shut the door & let him cry a little while then he would hop back in his toddler bed & go back to sleep; he also was coming out in the night to visit us in our bed.. He is a little older, 2 yrs & 4 mnths... We didn't mind for a while but now he is such a worm & wakes up our 7 mnth old who is in a cot in our room....

There was always reasons we didn't control cry him- teething, traveling, new baby, then whooping cough!!! But it had gone on for months & we really needed some sleep! My dr finally said you need to control cry him as he is just getting his own way all the time!

Happy to say that it has been 6 nights now & he sleeps thru til 6.30am & then comes in our bed.... I don't mind that!

It all depends on how much you can survive without sleep, & the 1st few nights are hard, but well worth it!!! Good luck :-)

He is much happier too as he is getting a better nights sleep

Penny - posted on 04/11/2012

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do u give her a bottle when she wakes up at night? if so stop it she is expecting u to cater to her. It's always difficult to change things around, she will eventually get used to it. ask ur doctor about melatonin the 300mcg. we had to do that with our little boy and it helped him sleep through the night. I hope this works. she may also be having night terros too.

Nicole - posted on 04/11/2012

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I call it a bottle too but its actually a sippy cup with milk. its just baba to her bc its milk for bed time or.nap time. it might be the same.for her..that's what i got from reading it just assuming most ppl.transition from bottles at 1 yr. but that's a good point.

Vivian - posted on 04/11/2012

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She's taking advantage of you and the fact that she can rely on you coming into her room every time she cries. My Pediatrician warned us about this when my daughter was about a year old. He said not to go into the room and if we did to check her and lay her back down and walk away. My daughter will be two in May, she sleeps from 8pm to 7am. She transitioned to a twin bed (with a guard rail) in January. The switch went smoother that I had anticipated. 1st we completely removed the crib, We started her new bed at nap time and then she just settled into it. Anyhow, you have to be firm, close the door completly and let em cry it out. When you give in to the crying you are esentially letting them know they are the boss. Goodluck.

Felisha - posted on 04/11/2012

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When we transitioned our oldest from crib to the toddler bed we kept up the crib and took off one of the sides and put up the bed rail (it was a four in one crib) and put up his big boy bed. We took him to the store and let him pick out his own new big boy bedding ( it wasn't allowed on the crib because cribs arnt for big boys) and put him in his new bed. This seemed to work fine. The first few nights were hard but my mom told me to put one of my pillows on his bed because it would have my "scent" on it and it would help keep him secure.

He has been in his bed ever since. Once in a while we still have nights where he want ti crawl into bed with us but we just lay in his bed, read him a book and snuggle for a few. We let him know that we will be back to check on him in z little while and he falls asleep.

oneof the mist important things was consistency. He get dinner, bath (with the nighttime bath wash) then bed.

Hope one of my ideas help you out!

Sherri - posted on 04/11/2012

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@Chandra do you honestly think I don't know that?? I am not a new mom here, nor am I stupid. What the heck does it matter, the point was they went from a crib to a bed (twin or toddler is irrelevant). And a lot of time it is regional but it is virtually unheard of here to transition them to a bed before at least 2 1/2. I actually know of someone that still has her almost 4yr old in a crib.



To me this is a milestone and maturity and readiness for it, means everything. If your child is still too young and loves their crib and it is their security then of course maturity has a play in it.



I have children from 15 to newborn so I think I know the difference between a toddler bed and twin bed. I just never wasted my money on a toddler bed because they wouldn't have used it long enough and I feel it is a racket to make money when I could just buy 1 twin bed.

Nicole - posted on 04/11/2012

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I put my daughters bed in our room next to my side of the bed. When she gets up we just tell her to lie down, if she tries to play or talk to us we tell her to go to sleep. Consistancy worked for us. But I think knowing that we are in the room with her makes a world of difference.

Sharon - posted on 04/11/2012

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I agree with the mums who say you need to be firm. Go to her when she wakes, reassure her, give kisses and cuddles and explain its night time and time for bed and get her back into bed. If she gets up again firmly repeat "it's bed time" and put her back to bed. If she is up any more times don't talk to her just keep putting her in bed. She will soon get the message, that you are there for her but it is time to sleep. Mine is just 2 years and has been in his bed for around 6 months, it used to take a couple of hours to get him back to sleep when he woke, but now if he wimpers we ignore him, but if he crys out we go reassure him and he will lie down and go back to sleep. Also he has a gate on his bedroom door so he knows he must stay in his room.

Selina - posted on 04/11/2012

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Can I suggest putting her back in the crib. I tried to 'upgrade' the beds at two but he just wasn't ready. I persevered for six weeks. It was a nightmare. He had always been a really good sleeper but not in the bed. I put him back in the cot but made it so he could get out safely. He didn't choose to much. I even got another cot secondhand for his little brother (due a few months later) but it was barely used. He really seemed to like the confinement of the cot. He felt safe and slept well. One day he wanted to sleep in 'Ellie's bed' (spare bed) and he has never gone back. He is in a bottom bunk and sleeps well. He was just ready. But after the struggle he has never slept AS well as he used to. Don't push it, when shes ready -it will happen overnight! Good luck!!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2012

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We had to use a baby gate our son has no problem sleeping once he actually gets there. We left him a toy or book but he didn't really seem to mind the gate. He would wake us in the morning and out he came and some mornings he would sit and play in his room before waking us. It might seem mean but my son is very high energy and is like the energizer bunny till he crashes and like I said he doesn't mind the gate. I guess since we always had them cause of our dogs they would love to get in his room to sleep with him :)

Jhoana - posted on 04/11/2012

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My son used to wake up in the middle of the night, he was on the toddler bed around 18 months so i don't think she's too young, the sooner the better. I close the door in my sons room don't want him wondering around. What i do when he weakes up is give him a bottle and if that doesn't help i sit next to him and pat him in the back or brush his hair so he knows i'm there without talking or any lights on. Don't let her engage you in any conversation or anything gotta let her know this is not the time for that.

Sandi - posted on 04/11/2012

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We put up a baby gate, The biggest fear i had was the little ones getting into trouble or getting hurt while i was sleeping. I would also go and check on them. And my kids new if they called me i was right there. Hopefully you find a solution that works for you. Tv off, lights off for bed time for us.

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