"cry it out"???

Becky - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my son is 10 months old and still wakes up through out the night! i will hold him and 2 min later he is out. he just wants me to hold him so he can fall back asleep. i am getting exausted and so is he! HELP!!!

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Belinda - posted on 07/05/2011

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It is a difficult time, I found that breaking the habit gently worked for me. Initially I would pick her up, cuddle her for a short time and then put her back in the crib. I would sit with her until she fell asleep ( this usually took around 30-40 minutes, sometimes as long as an hour). I would shush her, pat her and console her if she was upset. She never became hysterical. It took roughly 4 nights each night became easier and on the last night all I had to do was lay her back down, pat her back and walk out of the room.

However at this time she was only waking up once a night so it may take a little longer for you. If you find that it does, spend 3 nights right by his bed and then the next 3 nights half way to the door where he can still see you and hear you consoling him. The next 3 nights a little further back. This is a technique recommended by Kim West. Her Web site is
http://www.sleeplady.com/
I found her techniques to be very useful. Please pm me if you have any other questions

Janeta - posted on 07/04/2011

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Give your baby a hug and a kiss tell him that you love him and give a shirt that you had wore that day (it has your smell on it which is what he is craving) and then walk out of the room he may have a few nights where he fusses but it will start to shorten where he no longer fusses and where he doesnt even need your shirt any more I went through this with my eleven month old daughter.

Sara - posted on 07/04/2011

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And for the record, using CIO in conjunction to responsive, loving parenting is not going to make your kid think that you won't come to him when you need him. You know the difference in his cry because something is actually wrong, or because he just woke up and wants to be held. Teaching him to soothe himself back to sleep is not tantamount to abandoning him or not giving him what he needs, IMO.

Sara - posted on 07/04/2011

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Read "How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Richard Ferber. Even if you don't want to use his method of cry it out, it has a lot of great info in it. Good luck!

Becky - posted on 07/04/2011

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thanks:) his dad does help, but i feel im creating a bad habbit! i dont want him to be 5 and still waking up t night. when i do go into his room he is standing in his crib, so every 5 seconds im laying him back down and patting his butt:) other then this lil prob, he is such a good baby! he isnt fussy and is soooo happy:) i just am a lil sleep deprived and so is he:(

Monda - posted on 07/04/2011

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Hugs Mama, it is so exhausting when they don't sleep through. I remember feeling like I was turning into a crazy person. You might consider getting a co sleeper for your bed if you are open to that arrangement, it makes it less intrusive on your sleep to respond to and meet a crying babies needs. Otherwise my vote is to respond and not let him cry it out, it is important for kiddos to know that they have impact on those around them and that their needs will be met by their primary care provider. Hope he starts sleeping better very soon.

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