Crying with family

Diana - posted on 01/12/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned 7 months, since she was 5 months she's been having crying when visiting my in laws. She doesn't see them often but when we do she is so upset and cries she actually had thrown up. It's so hard to see her so upset and my husband and I try to comfort her but can't, she just cried and cried. She works herself up and we usually end up leaving. It's been tough on my husband since he wants them to be close but they just don't make time to visit so she does not know them. She completely fine with my side because she sees them all throughout the week with no issues. Does anyone have advice on how we can help my daughter adjust to my in laws? I ask them to ignore her and not make eye contact until she is comfortable but they don't listen and a crying meltdown happens. I'm hoping it's just a phase. My friends have come to visit and it takes a little for my daughter to warm up but they give her space and then she ends up playing and laughing.

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Diana - posted on 01/12/2016

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We have encouraged my in laws to visit her more in her environment. I get everyone is busy and they have older kids they run around with but then they can't expect my daughter to "just go to them" without hesitation like my family. I know it's hard on my husband but we have pulled back because it's not fair to my daughter. There is so many people at one in her face, I'd be overwhelmed too. Thanks for the support.

Dove - posted on 01/12/2016

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If they won't listen there really isn't much more you can do. Keep telling them that every time you go over and remind them that if they won't give her space you'll have to cut the visit short if she won't stop crying. You might also want to cut down on the number of visits (but not stop them entirely) until she gets better because it's not really fair to put her through that.

My niece would freak out EVERY time she saw my husband (now ex)... for like the first two years of her life. It was really weird cuz ALL other kids he ever met loved him almost instantly. He would be in the house (niece lived in my dad's house) around her, but ignore her and not approach her... and she eventually stopped.

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