Kristen - posted on 02/21/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
Right now my ex and I are disputing custody of the children! As of now he lives at home with his mother and has no bills! He has a flexible work schedule and had been taking them at night after work putting them to bed and taking them to school in the am...I work at 6am and he does not want someone taking care of them in the morning besides us! I pick them up every day after school and on weekends over night but I've told him from the beginning I've wanted week on week off and he always has a fight about it! 1)He doesn't want someone he doesn't know watching them ! 2) he feels I'm being neglectful of their needs by getting a before school baby sitter. 3) he doesn't want me dragging them out at that time in the morning for day care! 4) he doesn't want to be separated for 7 days. 5) he doesn't want to do the separation suddenly! So in my attempt to please him I've been taking everything he's asked into consideration so 1) I've contacted an old sitter we had for them as babies and offered her the position! (Someone he knows) 2) I feel that there is no difference in a before school sitter too an after school sitter. 3) the sitter is willing to come to my home and care for them and provide transportation to school! 4)I said if he wanted to see the children during the week that I have them he could pick them up for dinner or whatever he chose but they would be returned after! 5) I've put the start date of sitter for a month out and even offered a couple nights a week to ease into it! My question is should I just file for joint custody through the court to avoid this fighting and feeling of being denied my right to parent the children during their night time activities! I feel I've been bullied enough and I'm asking for equal time not anymore!