Shy - posted on 05/22/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
Hello my fellow mommies and daddies, I am new here and glad that I joined as I have read others posts and see this site to be very informative. However, I am a 20 year old single mother of a 2 year old baby girl. Her dad and I separated in January when I left his house for good and moved on to my own place, bought my own car, furniture, etc. And it felt so good, as I was subjected to daily mental and emotional agony at the hands of my ex who would humiliate me everyday in front of his family and daughter while they all took his side in the end. He has been physically abusive in the past which resulted in us both spending 38 hours in jail due to the fact that he and his family painted me as the aggressor. However, the courts threw it out due to insufficient evidence and it did not go on our record, THANK GOD. However, I lost my job 2 months ago and have not had any luck securing new employment, I made a huge mistake in disclosing that to my ex, and since then the verbal, mental and emotional abuse has further escalated, he is trying to destroy me at all costs. I had plans to go back to my hometown and be with family, but he has stopped me right in my tracks by filing for joint custody now I can not leave state with my daughter. I feel doomed because he continues to harass me and bully me into letting him see his baby. Everyime I let her go, when I call to check on her I'm sent to voicemail, he ignores my texts and I just do not feel at ease when she's with him but I also understand the importance of him being in her life. My question is, if I have audio recordings of him lashing out at me in front of my baby are these things that I can use in court? Also until we go to court am I obligated to give him visitation? he doesn't even ask, he'll just call me and say he's on his way and when I object he curses me out. He has threatened to kill me and anyone who gets in his way of his daughter. I'm so lost. I have no family here or no one to help me. I plan on going to a domestic violence shelter as I will be facing eviction soon and having my utilities shut off. My daughter has had constant diaper rashes while in his care and he has shown several signs of irresponsibility. I haven't been able to sleep or eat properly as I am so scared of what he will do since he has the upper hand in this situation. I do not want to lose my daughter but according to him I will get in trouble for not letting her see him. Please help. I am so scared. I also had to call the police on him last Saturday when I let my baby go over there, he and his family were not trying to let me get my baby and he made a huge scene cursing me out in front of his new g and threatening to beat me up.