Jessy - posted on 01/07/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi. I'm new to this website. My name is Jess. through all the stress Ive been going through this past year, I thought this would help.
My junior-senior years, I dated a guy for 11 months. It was great at first, but then became awful. He became super controlling and terrifying. You could sense the evilness when you stand near him. He had to know who I talked to at school, what I talked about, who I stood by, and what time I got back from lunch. He isolated me from my family and friends, causing me and my mothers relationship to fall apart. He even had to know what I wore to school every day to make sure it was "appropriate". He also caused problems between my parents. He constantly had to be near me. And pressured me into so many terrible things. I needed so much help in that relationship. He pressured me into doing drugs, smoking, lying, and getting pregnant with him. Even though I made some terrible terrible mistakes, I have learned from it and I have became a born again christian. I am now the mother to a 3 month old precious baby boy, and i love him more than anything.
Through the time I dated him, he told me he had been involved in gangs. He said when he was little, he found some baby rabbits and put them in a sack, and filled it with some type of spray and watched them die. I once gave him $500 to help him get off probation, and he never payed me back. When I asked about it, he says "from all the cokes I bought you at Casey's, it pretty much adds up to $500." He has an uncontrollable temper, says the "F" word about every 10 words, and has terrible, scary road rage. He tattooed my name on his side, I believe to do it as a controlling tactic. He said he wanted a "Satanic Goat" tattoo as well. He has been so mad at me he threw his phone and broke it, slammed me on the bed before, and also slammed his hand so hard on the floor his ring flew way off. He even once told me the worst thing he has ever done was kill 3 people (I didnt believe him, but who would be crazy enough to make up a story like that?) He even told me to choose between him, and my mom. And thats when I broke up with him.
Aftre I broke up with him, he told me everything was a lie. The gangs, to the killing people, to everything. He was so upset I broke up with him that he slammed his fists onto his trunk of his car, and created two dents, and drove away insanley. Later that night, he punched the window of his car and broke it completely. My aunt witnessed it.
Two weeks later, i found out i was pregnant. I avoided him the best I could all summer. I even moved to my sister 2.5 hours away, and two weeks later, I found out he did the same. I tried meeting up with him to calm the waters and work things out. Even after my son was born, I let him come to visit two times. It didnt work out. at alll. He hasnt paid for one bill, he complains about me all over facebook (which I no longer have & loving it), he is trying to make my life miserable.
He is taking me to court to have rights and for my son to have his last name. (Of course he wants all the glory). However, I believe with all my heart that its not my son he wants. I believe he just want to control me and have power over me, and try his best to torture me. I am seeing a very expensive lawyer this week, and praying that I will have full custody.I dont want him to have any custody, no visitation, NOTHING. my life is soooo much better and peaceful without him.
I have no proof of the things he has said to me, but I have people who have seen his awful behavior. He has a record, been on probation for 3 years. He hasnt even proved he is the father.
I currently work for a drillng company, and live back home with my parents until I am stable enough to live on my own in the future. I am a good mother to my son. And I can't imagine him getting into the car with my ex-boyfriend, let alone going to stay with him for a night.
If he would sign his rights over, I would never ask him for anything, never complain, never persue him or ask him for money.
I am so scared that he will get his way. He is persistent, and throws a fit when told no. Please help!!!