Jules - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )
I have a 2yr old daughter Lacie and when she was 3 months old her dad and i broke up. Since then he has seen lacie sometimes every weekend other times not for months. My ex Jake has recently decided to take me to court for custody of Lacie. Now i have been a good parent to my daughter and have always put her needs before my own. My daughter always has food on the table, a roof over her head, warm bed to sleep in, toys, games, clothes anything she needs or wants. From my ex i get a lowsy $37 a month in child support which basically is shit all these days. Not only do i pay for the rent, but food, bills, clothes, toys. Now the custody case went to court today and the judge awarded tempory custody to my ex until it goes back to court on the 14th of October. I get supervised visits on Wednesdays from 12pm to 3pm and saturdays from 11am to 4pm. My ex's lawyer accused me of being an alcoholic, drug addict, unfit parent and also accused me of having men at the house while my daughter is there. He had about 50 signed statements to back up his claims. Most of them are people i used to be friends with before i moved away 3 months ago. Some of them i have not talked to or seen for over 2 years. The only male who comes to my house atm is my bf Mike who i have been seeing for 6 weeks now. And he has never stayed over and has only come around a handful of times for dinner. Now i do have a lawyer who has advised me to get signed statement from people who can support my claim that i am a fit mother to raise my daughter. I have only had one serious relationship since my ex Jake and i broke up which resulted in the birth of my son in April this year. That relationship ended before my son was born. I am also pregnant again to Jake which is not my most finest moment but it happened. Now my question is this. Has anyone else been through something similiar? What happened? How did things turn out in the long run? I just need some help or just anything atm cause frankly i feel so angry at the judge, my ex, and his lawyer. Please i really dont want to lose my baby girl.