Amanda - posted on 06/08/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
My oldest daughter has lived mostly with her grandparents since she was born. I lived there for the first year and a half of her life. Then her, her father and I got an apartment of our own. We lived there for a year and had another child. We lost the apartment 2 months after my second daughter was born due to their dad running off with the rent plus our savings. Me and my girls were homeless moving place to place. Because my oldest was older i wanted her to have a stable home and let her stay with her grandparents. She would come stay a few nights with me when I would stay at my parents for a little while this was how it was for a few year. I ended up saving money and bought a trailer. My youngest now was older and needes stability. I wanted to have my oldest back but i know felt guilt about taking her away from "home". So i let it be. Her grandmother came to me and told me she needed some type of custody that proved my daughter lived with her to get her enrolled in school. I was horrified and distraught at the that of not having custody or any rights to her. I cried alot and decided to look up custody arrangement decided it was only right to give her grandma 50/50 custody. I would have just as much rights to my daughter and no way for her to tell me i couldnt have her. We go to mediation and i tell him i want 50/50 with her grandma. He asked alot of question like her primary residence. And i made sure it was them so they could enroll her in school. My only input other then the 50/50 was that i would be allowed to have my daughter when i wanted and couldnt be told no. Remember i know absolutely nothing about what any of this means. Papers are signed and finalized. Now I am realizing we do not have 50/50. Her grandmother has primary custody. And i pretty much have no rights. She has final say so over everything including telling me no when i ask for my daughter. How i told the court 50/50. I had full custody and all rights and i told them i still wanted half custody. How can they take all away?