custody of a 3 month old.

Macey Christina - posted on 11/02/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




i have a 3 month old son. he is my pride and joy, and always has been. on december 05 i found out i was pregnant.. the father of my baby,( he was my boifriend for thee years) wasnt ready for this.. so he kinda left me and the baby to develop alone, without him, or his help or concern.....

so when i finalyl went into labour i was by myself.. he shwed up a couple hours into my labour, and he held my hand, and cried and all that stuff.. and i thought he would change.. but he didnt.. when we left the hosdpital i never saw him.. he saw his son 15 times in 2 motnhs... so i filed for sole custody.. for legal adress, primary caregiver, and so on..

i was NOT taking him away.. but anyways. i filed sept 25... and today, nov. 02. he served me today.. for joint custody.. but he was never around in the begginging, and he doesnt take the proper safety precautions for his son.. i filed this in my sons best interest.. but when he served me for joint. it wasnt with the best interst of the child.. i am a breast feeding mom, and i cannot go a weeekend with out my son.. does anybody know if he will get joint custody? he is very good with the baby.. and i trust him alone, but i am scared..somebody please


also, he is NOT on the birth cirtificate or anything.. thanks.


Jodi - posted on 11/02/2012




15 visits in 2 months is actually pretty good.....I wouldn't call that a disinterested father or never around.


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Dove - posted on 11/02/2012




It's only been 3 months. It's not like he's been an absent father for years or anything. Your best move is to get a lawyer... now. Only your lawyer will know the ins and outs of your situation and the laws in your area in order to give you the best advice about how to proceed. I do know in SOME states (though I have no clue which ones) a father will not get overnight visitations with a breastfeeding child under a year. Your state may or may not be one of those.

Your ex may not be filing for joint custody in the best interest of your child, but it IS in the best interest of your child to be able to have equal access to his father.

I also don't understand how you can say in the start of one paragraph that he doesn't take proper safety precautions with your son, but at the end of that paragraph you say he is good with the baby and you trust him alone.... I would not trust a man who doesn't take proper safety precautions with MY infant....

Only/best advice I have is to get a good lawyer and hang in there!

Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012




I don't understand how you say he doesn't take proper safety precautions with your son but then you say you trust him with him...

I would just go to the court date and explain to the judge that he hasn't even been around. You've been the sole caregiver to the baby since the day he was born.

I don't see why they'd give joint custody to a father that hasn't been around. They will most likely give him visitations which you can work out with a mediator if you two can't come to an arrangement.

As for the breast feeding. You can always pump for the times he's with his dad.

Macey Christina - posted on 11/02/2012




when i served him, he wanted everything to do with the child.. and has ever since.

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