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I will try to make this as brief as possible- I have a 6 year old and have been dating my current boyfriend for several years. About 9 months ago my boyfriend and I discussed me moving closer to him and I agreed. Schools in my current area were not so great and the violence in the area was pretty high also. The state I planned to move too was significantly better. I discussed this anticipated move with the father (we were never married) 5 months prior to the actual date I planned to move, he said nothing. We discussed the proposed move several other times and each time he seemed to agree with it. I arranged a great deal of visitation time for him, at least what he currently had and maybe even a little more, although the visits would be more spaced out because of the distance. 2 weeks before I actually moved, he served me with papers preventing the child from leaving the state. The father has had some involvement with the child but never paid any support. At the point that I received papers I had already secured a place, a job and resigned from my current job- not to mention I had already moved all of me and my child's things. My lawyer advised me to continue with the move but travel back often to exercise parenting time. I have traveled back to visit my child every few weeks and have also had my child visit me in the month and a half since this all happened. Our court date is in a few months, but has anyone ever had any experience with this? At this point I just want custody of my child - even if it means I have to move back and nix moving altogether. The move really was in the best interest of my child and it's pointless if the child cannot come. Also it seems the father is more interested in making things harder on me then thinking of our child. He has tried to contest the child visiting although the GAL supported it and makes no effort to respond to any communication. I have remained very nice and civil, although he has become quite nasty which surprises me since currently he has the child. I appreciate any feedback given.