Custody rights

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I have full custody of my 14 yrs old daughter we are on a process of transitioning out of military I have explained to my ex that this summer vacay to Japan this june is not the right time because its on that estimated time we are moving and I believe my daughter should be there to take care of her stuff and her cat I never deprived him n his family to see her I am asking for his understanding to give this june a time to get us settled first but he dont seems to understand and respect that we need this time to ourselves instead he wants to make court order that he see his daughter and kept on saying I have rights to see her eventho I never deprived him but his just to stubborn and selfish to understand that this summer is just not a good time that is all

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/24/2015

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Teh process depends on where you are. In some areas, she's old enough to choose primary residence, in others she's not.

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yes besides the whole summer and holidays last year with him and his parents so I have been trying to remain in good terms but this june i just explained that my familys priorities comes first then they can see her on july till aug instead he want to scare me of goin to court and all that Im not worried bout court just that dunno hw process goes and how now he wants her to stay with him for high school

Jodi - posted on 03/24/2015

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So has she expressed her wishes to her dad?

However, if he wishes to get court orders, then it probably is a sensible thing to have, then there are no questions about when he can plan his vacation with his daughter without it being a problem for you......and vice versa.

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she wants to go after we get settled and he still gets july and aug again I am not depriving him from seeing her i just explained that june is not good time

Jodi - posted on 03/24/2015

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I don't think his demands are unreasonable. You are suggesting that he is being stubborn and selfish, but.....so are you.

Your daughter is 14, why don't you ask her what she wants to do?

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yes that is true eventho there was never issue of him seeing her but he just dont want to cooperate that she is much needed at home on moving process so how does court goes he files and then what is the process ?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/24/2015

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Well, if you have no formal orders in place, he has every right to take his daughter on vacay.

Formal orders save so much trouble in cases like this. If he wants to go to court, he's thinking correctly. Getting orders set will avoid future problems.

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theres no court order on anything when and what his rights of seeing her he sign the papers and knows that he did not demand on vacay or any holidays but I have always gave all time and effort each year when he wants to see her all i asked is this time let us get settled first was that too much to ask and now he wants to go court which i think its goin overboard

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/24/2015

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It is not about whether it's a 'good' time for you or not. What do your custody orders say? Does he have physical custody during the dates of his planned vacation? If so, it is not right for you to demand he change his plans.

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