Janelle - posted on 07/08/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am the defendant in a divorce battle, married 13 years, together 14...1 child aged, 5.5 yrs, she is the love of my life and I went through so much to have her through infertility. We were actively trying for our second child for just one year when spouse asked for separation citing "personal issues" of his own and his anger and cold and harsh behavior. Turns out, he cheated, went all crazy behavior, then decides he wants to be "Freddy - father of the year" and on top of that, he is verbally abusive, controlling, yells at me in front of my daughter, in the entire year and a half since we have now separated and since he sought a full-on divorce. He started dating a new woman (# 3 I think) with a child and now spends 2 solid nights a week with my child and her and her child. I'm on the outs. I have no voice. I just fired my last attorney for not representing me well or fighting for my cause. The abuse just goes unnoticed because it is verbal and intimidating?? I have tons of paper trail, texts, printing them all out, saving texts, have written accounts of bad pick up and drop offs....constantly making digs and comments to me in front of my daughter, stressing me out to the max, God help me, how is any of this "okay" in the court's eyes....he is hurting my daughter by hurting me and now the poor thing has to bounce around 50/50 cuz that is what the judge gave us since he got his way. I have to be forced/ripped away from my child, whom I bore in my body, half the week on an awful rotating schedule, sure to disrupt her life even moreso now, since he is bossy and a bully and a COP!!! How do you fight the police in court. I'm in an awful situation. No disrespect to anyone dealing with physical abuse, he used to just punch walls and slam doors and shove me out of the way in place of prob punching me...but the verbal/mental abuse is pretty terrible I'll tell ya.....someone, advise me please. I'm doing all I can and will keep fighting for the "right" things and I keep praying. I'm so drained and my poor girl, I'm missing out on so many things. He uses parental alienation and doesn't let me have "first right to refusal" when he is at work and unavailable....what court in the land would deny me being her primary caretaker?? I've never done drugs, I an anti-smoking, anti-drinking, you could do a hair-strand test on me, I have a perfect driving record , college educated, great family supporting me, all I want is my child when he can't be with her, all I want is more time with my girl. I have evidence of his infidelity, I want to lay his s**t bare in court. This is wrong to she and I and I can't live this way. UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!