Dad's Inappropriate Behavior What Do I Do?

Jamie - posted on 06/27/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a huge problem, my 11 year old came home from vacation with his dad and his dad's family to tell me something shocking. First, I am so glad my son feels like he can tell me anything! Please help me decide what to do. BTW, his dad and I are not together. So, my son and his dad shared a motel room alone and every night my son's father would have lights on and be talking to my son while humping the bed. He didn't use his hands or touch my son during this period. I am not sure if he was masturbating or not. Please feel free to ask me more questions so you can help me. Do I call the cops or cps?

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Sarah - posted on 06/27/2016

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If this were my child, I would want some certainty that the father is supervised constantly from here on out. If you can get his parents to agree to a court order for supervision, even during sleep and you feel they'd stick to it, then I'd do that. If they resist at all or you don't trust that they'd actually monitor him consistently, then I'd call CPS. CPS is not to punish him, but to ensure the safety of your son.
If your son had no idea what was up, then I agree with Dove; why would he even bring it up? He knew something was going on and he's 11, even if he is naive he knew enough to tell you. If he father has a history of mental health issues and his judgement about what is acceptable to do in front of a child is off then you absolutely must make your child's safety your priority. Now, I am not saying he'd molest him, but what might happen? Maybe dad would actually masturbate in front of his son. I don't know but you certainly don't want to be looking back with regret that you should have done something sooner.

Dove - posted on 06/27/2016

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If your son had no idea what his father was doing why would he even bring it up? If the father is unstable and has mental health issues and you have full custody and full control over visitation... I wouldn't have been doing any overnight sort of visitation in the first place, but, of course, you can't go back in time.

Jamie - posted on 06/27/2016

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Oh no my son had no idea what he was doing, I do not know if his dad actually masturbated. My son rarely sees his dad and only with the grandparents do to some very unstable behavior and mental illness. His mom promised she would watch out and my son did not feel comfortable telling her. Do you think I should call cops or cps? I do not want to confront father cause he will bolt from his mom's house and I have full custody, he can only see him if I agree. Thanks for helping.

Sarah - posted on 06/27/2016

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You son laid there while his own father masturbated (I don't know what else humping a bed would be for) with the lights on like it was normal everyday behavior? Have you confronted his father?

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