dad unemployed not supporting child

Portia - posted on 11/10/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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we are not married, apart for 3years and i never received any support from him since 2012 for his child, court says he is unemployed parents unemployed,what do i do?

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Michelle - posted on 11/10/2015

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If he's unemployed and not earning an income then he can't give you any money can he?
What do you do? Make sure that you can support your child yourself.

Raye - posted on 11/10/2015

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Michelle is right, you can't get water from a stone. If he doesn't have enough income, he can't pay support. If you have a visitation agreement, you still have to follow it. If you don't have a visitation agreement, you should go to court and have one put in place. Just because he can't pay doesn't mean you can keep him from seeing the child. The child is not a possession to be rented out to the father only if he hands you money. That's not how it works.

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Jodi - posted on 11/12/2015

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People can get married for very little cost. And it's not his new wife's responsibility to support your child. How would you feel if one day you got married to someone with a child and all of a sudden had your pay docked for the child support?

Ev - posted on 11/12/2015

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These ladies are right. My sister raised her daughter for years without the help of her former first husband until the child was in her teens. Then for about six months to a year he paid her child support. Then it stopped. The man had been in jail for a long time as well and his visitation was not allowed because of his crimes he had committed. I think you can imagine what those were where a minor under 18 could not be in his home with him. He had even married since getting out of jail and had two more kids from what my sis found out with his wife but he can not even raise his kids because of his crimes. So my niece has 2 half siblings she may never ever know.

Raye - posted on 11/12/2015

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The new wife's income usually won't factor in to what the father must pay. You can always ask the support agency to review his case since circumstances are changing or have changed.

It doesn't have to cost very much to get married. Where I live, a marriage license is $55. The Mayor or a judge can officiate the marriage for $50-75. That's really the bare minimum cost to get married.

Portia - posted on 11/12/2015

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ohk, thank you all,this has been on my mind for long though, apparently he is married or getting married so where does the money come from for marriage?......if his married and the wife works can i then put in for maintenance at the court?,,,,or should i just leave it?...

Jodi - posted on 11/10/2015

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Unemployed parents here in Australia only pay $34 a month. My ex, who actually DOES have a job, but is considered low income, gets away with $34 a month too. Has done for YEARS. It may as well be nothing - we all know how far $34 goes. So I hear you. And I agree with the others, there's nothing much you can do if that is what the courts ordered. Just make sure you have the means to support your child. Never rely on child support to get you by.

Dove - posted on 11/10/2015

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Even unemployed parents are 'required' to pay child support here, but... my ex owes over $32,000 in back pay... so you can't MAKE them pay.

You could waste your time and money and energy and take it to court... or you could just focus on taking care of your child yourself and if any child support money DOES ever come in... you can be pleasantly surprised.

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