Dating a man with 5 kids by 4 women!

Claire - posted on 09/06/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




We are 17 years apart. I have a toddler and he has 5 kids by 4 different women. 2 marriages. We've been seeing eachother for nearly a year and he only just told me about all the kids as he was scared. I have already had a failed abusive marriage and after 4 years of being single , this is the most loving, caring, supportive man I have ever met. I'm torn between dumping the baggage and following my heart! Would u stay or leave?


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Kim - posted on 09/06/2013




That is a lot of failed relationships for a man who is loving, caring and supportive. Many men seem charming, but it is just a manipulation, and he apparently has a way with women. How did he hide 5 children from you? Being scared sounds like a poor excuse. If you love him, carry on, but be wary. I must agree with the other two on keeping hosueholds separate for a long time. The age difference seems a little concerning too, though some make it work, the majority fail to do so.

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2013




I would be keeping separate houses for as long as possible and then extending it by a few more years. Make sure you are on BC as well as using other protection.
If it was me I would leave especially since it took him so long to tell you about something so important. It's not like a little white lie, it's 5 children!!!!! You don't forget you have 5 children.

Catherine - posted on 09/06/2013




Ground rules! Have your cake and eat it but give him the opportunity to try and make a life with you. Who knows why his past relationships were a failiure life sucks sometimes. Don't take his baggage see it as accepting his past;)

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