Dating with a 3 year old

Jade - posted on 03/17/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly a year. I didn't allow him to meet my son for quite some time. I had dated people before him and never let them meet my son but this one was different. We talked about our future and eventually about moving in together. Two months ago, my boyfriend moved in. My son and he had a great relationship. My boyfriend actually potty trained him after I had been trying (unsuccessfully) for weeks. My son would tell him he loved him. He was always excited to see him. Sometimes I was the odd one out because the boys were busy playing. About three weeks ago my son had a nightmare. It was the first one he has ever had. My boyfriend is an ER nurse and he works nights so he wasn't home. We actually didn't see him until about four days later because he had worked nine nights in a row. My son's demeanor changed greatly after the nightmare. He was extra clingy to me and wouldn't do anything by himself which is totally out of the ordinary for him. The day we finally did spend family time together we went to a birthday party with my boyfriend's family. My son calls his parents grandma and papa and gets along great with is nephew. That day my son wasn't feeling too good. He was being a bit of a brat (which is normal when he is sick--aren't we all?) But he would cry any time my boyfriend would hold him or try to play with him. This has continued for the last three weeks. Not the crying but tell me he doesn't love him anymore and not wanting him anywhere near me. It has put a huge strain on all of us. I've tried to talk to my son about it but when I do he just agrees with anything I ask him. It's not constant either. One minute he will shy away from my boyfriend and the next he will tell him he loves him and ask him to play motorcycles. This is the first time I have brought anyone around my child and my child's father only sees him every other weekend. He has never had a male in his life constantly like this. Could he just be acting out because he is having to share his mommy? And if that is the case how do I deal with it/avoid it in the future?

Side note: My boyfriend is currently moving out because of this.

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