Dating with a toddler?!

Ashlee - posted on 08/27/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I never thought I would ever be thinking and over-thinking what's appropriate for my toddler to be around - whats "too soon"... I'm the product of divorced parents and step-parents ..some good and some completely horrific - my dad was the one who had craptacular girlfriends and wife's (and divorces) While my mom brought random men in and out of my life for her pleasure (defiantly not mine or my younger sibling)

My situation is nothing like there's - it's just my experience clashes with my opinion. I was in an 8 year relationship / father of our 3.5 year old boy... Who loves us both - and packing up and leaving wasn't/didn't have as much of an effect on him as the in between moments when he gets in the car without "mom" to go to "dads" - I've been gone and we've been on our own now for almost 6 months .. I haven't been with anyone / ever brought anyone home for my own personal morals, so bringing people in and out or even him in some way getting attached is a HUGE fear of mine. Fear as in - I in no way can control how he feels (positive/negative) about this person so I want it to be right. He is my biggest and most valued critic - so naturally when I did meet someone almost 2 months ago I immediately told him the next day whatever he couldn't figure out by looking around my apartment (pictures,colourings,art tables - all my toddler) ... It was maybe the start of what made me feel so compelled to share but he also has a 2 year old daughter. Our situations are different - but completely the same ... I let my little guy meet this guy as a friend ... We met at the park a few times, beach, splash pad, library ect. So I can tell my toddler and him have what feels like a warm start - my LO seems vulnerable ... "Do you love aiden?" has came our of his mouth only a couple times but this happened just the other week. He went down and told my EX last weekend ... Some unnecessary things and maybe even hurtful. I refuse to tell him how he can and cannot feel ..he's very bold and blunt (even in public to strangers, he just doesn't know)

I'm just wondering - is what I'm doing hurtful? This guy is a very positive man - morals, he's so active and just loving towards LO without even ever saying a single word or having an expectation ... I feel truly blessed to have found him... I know It will take time for everything to work out with both out situations but I just think LO and I both deserve to be happy ... I just have to make sure I don't cause any pain either. LO feels my happiness ...he completely feeds off of it and I just think and hope he's happy ... Any and all opinions welcome

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