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Samantha - posted on 02/25/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 2 yr old daughter has been clingy to me all her life now it's getting bad me and her dad separated so we don't live together. .. she crys for hours when I drop her off at daycare or her father picks her up she looks terrified I tried a new daycare it's not that I just don't know

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Jodi - posted on 02/28/2016

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I asked a simple question here and she clarified it for me, Kayla. I wasn't making any judgement. Clearly, you have a problem with a response I gave you, which, by the way, there was also absolutely nothing wrong with. If you came to respond in this post simply to call me out, then who is being unhelpful and rude?

Lynn - posted on 02/25/2016

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I would suggest as an ECE faculty that you talk to the teachers in the child care centre. They will have insight into your daughter's behaviour over the course of the day and may become your greatest support system. It is not unusual for children at this age to experience separation anxiety. If she is transitioning to a new child care centre it is important that you spend at least a week with her, gradually increasing the amount of time you spend at the centre each day. Some children make a smooth transition and with others it takes much longer. It is important that you establish a routine every morning so that she will know what to anticipate. For example, you might undress her and enter into the room. See what she is interested in and participate with her. Announce that you will read one book and then it will be time for you to go. Give lots of hugs and hand your daughter off to the staff person that she relates to the best. There is a big difference in the approach if she is just turning 2 or will soon be 3. Try to be patient since your daughter will pick up on any negative feelings. Try involving your ex since for your child's well being, you will need to maintain a positive relationship. Good luck!

Dove - posted on 02/25/2016

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Poor kid. Maybe some play therapy w/ a psychologist can help her learn to be more comfortable.

Does she literally cry the entire time she is w/ her father and the entire time at daycare or is it just during drop offs?

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Jodi, do you ever have anything POSITIVE to say to these other mothers? Seems every post I come across you have left a comment saying nothing but rude, unhelpful comments. Ive noticed it really seems to be an issue with the new moms in the 'welcome to circle of moms' posts, mine included.

Dove - posted on 02/25/2016

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Then please speak to her doctor about a referral to a child psychologist that can work w/ a child so young. Sounds like you could both use some help and support.

Jodi - posted on 02/25/2016

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How can she be attached to your hip all the time at daycare if you are leaving her there?

Samantha - posted on 02/25/2016

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We separated the day after she was born due to him cheating while I was in labor with her so she wasn't separated from him as far as that ... she has been there with him every week at his house and still no positive outcome she still crys all the time with him and only thing to calm her down is to see me same thing with daycare she just attached to my hip all the time

Dove - posted on 02/25/2016

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Sounds like some major separation anxiety compounded by her father not living there anymore. Was that recent or have you two always been separated?

It's frustrating and takes a lot of time, consistency, and patience to overcome, but can be totally normal for some kids. I couldn't even leave the room w/out my son freaking out til he was 4.... Give her lots of comfort and support, but be calm and matter of fact during necessary drop offs.

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