Fab - posted on 08/23/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
First day here.... :) I have a 9 year old daughter. Her biological father and I broke up (7/2007) after he choked me, I called the police and he was arrested. She was 10 months old at the time. He would occasionally take her Tuesday and Friday after work and bring her back the same day. I have never filled for custody nor child support.
In 6/2009 I met my now husband and we married in 11/2010.
In 2012, Her Biological father moved 5 hours away and it REALLY took a toll on her. She was devastated, she was not focusing in class, her grades started to drop.... My husband and I started spending more quality time with her and soon she was back to her normal, happy self.
She has been an amazing child overall, shes top 3 in her class and her grades are amazing. Her biological father would come and visit his family and her every 3-4 months.
8/2014- Biological father comes to visit.... He picks up our daughter and my daughter calls me that shes having a horrible day. Apparently biological father brought his girlfriend of 1 month, and her 2 daughter with him!
My daughter was so bummed because he didn't tell her before hand. I explained to my daughter that its okay, he probably was embarrassed, etc...
She also learned that they were then living together.
So my daughter got over it and he would come every 2-3 months, with his girlfriend and her kids. My daughter started asking question like "If they live together, doesn't that mean he is spending time with his girlfriends little girls (ages 2 and 8)? That is not fair mommy!" "Mommy, why doesnt my dad spend time alone with me anymore?"
I was heartbroken!!
As of 2-3 months ago, he has been visiting more often, every time with his GF and her kids.
Every time my daughter is on the phone with him, she begs him for alone time with him. She wants at least 30 minutes of his undivided attention but he always says he cannot leave his GF behind!!! My daughter is tired of it and my husband and I are too!
My husband is an awesome father, he loves my daughter and my daughter loves him, we have never blocked her biological father from her, but now I really feel like moving and cutting ties with him forever. Its painful to see my daughter seeking and asking for attention from him and I DO NOT want her doing this with men in the long run....
He has been very insulting as of lately too...
Have any of you been in a similar situation?? I really need your support....
Thanks in advance! :-)
and just a little FYI, my husband has been in my daughters life since she was 2, he has raised her and she has called him daddy since after we were married. He is an outstanding father, he gives her attention, helps her with homework, buys her necessities, takes her on daddy/daughter dates.