Daughter in separate class from her friend!

Andrea - posted on 06/17/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter has been separated from her best friend for the past two years. We were all convinced that finally they would be reunited this September but we found out today that they are in separate classes again! My daughter really loves her friends and is devastated. What can I do? Both girls were in tears today! They seem to be the only friends being treated like this and they claim all the girls have to take a turn in different classes but it doesn't seem that way.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/17/2015

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Are they still in the same school? If so, this is not a problem, as the still see each other daily, and can still get together outside of school.
School really isn't about whether or not your best friend is in the same class. Most of the time when I was in school, my best friends were in different classrooms. Didn't change the friendship any at all.
Kids need to learn that they can't always have what they want in life. By pushing to have the girls in the same class, you are giving your daughter the impression that this will always be possible, which, in reality, it will not. As they advance to University, if they were to show up in my office asking to be in the same section of class because they are best friends, they'd be told that those arrangements are not possible.

Sarah - posted on 06/17/2015

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My kids school does this all the way until they hit high school. It is so kids branch out and get to meet and become friends with others throughout the years. It also helps prevent so much clickiness from happening. My kids go to a big school. It is a campus of 5 elementary(k-4th grade) buildings, a 5-6 grade building, a 7-9 building, and a high school building. So K-4th they are mixing around those kids in that particular building....this helps them get to know more in their building so when they get to 5-9 grades and are all put together in one building they know more people. They then start to mix everyone around together. This helps for when they get to high school and are taking classes with upper class men, which also prepares them for college.

We find other places/ways for friends to stay connected.....playing together after school, playing together in the summer, playing sports together, attending camps together, etc.

Dove - posted on 06/17/2015

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Remind the girls that there are plenty of times that they CAN be together... during class is not about socialization anyway... it's about education. Recess, lunch, and outside of school is for socializing. We have multiple classes per grade here and it's hit or miss on whether or not you will get a good friend in your class or not... My oldest is about to start 9th grade and I have two other kids also in school and I've never once thought to make an issue of what class they are in or not in. It is NOT a big deal and kids need to know they won't always get what they want in life.

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Jodi - posted on 06/18/2015

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I'd say there are probably reasons they aren't put in a class together. When we sit and do class allocations for students, the first thing we do is separate combinations that aren't good together in the classroom. Maybe they feel the two girls would do better in class when they aren't together.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/17/2015

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Wow, Sarah! That's actually a very neat idea, to have all of the grade levels on one campus but different buildings.

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