daughter lies to friends about home life

Sidney - posted on 05/20/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 14-year-old daughter lies to her friends about her home life. She tells them on facebook and texts that she smokes weed, her step dad beats her, I am constantly yelling at her and hate her because she looks like my ex. All these things are not true. I don't understand why she would want her friends to think bad things about her and her parents. If anything, it's her biological father that treats her like she's nothing. My husband and I have done nothing but love her and tell her how much we love her all the time. It hurts and is hard to not take it personally when she paints this ugly picture of us to her friends. Recently I found out that she had posted to a couple of her friends that she was raped several years ago. I don't even know how to approach her about this. Because she has lied about everything else, this rape must be a lie, too, but I'd like to talk to her to find out without her knowing that I know what she posted.

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Michelle - posted on 05/20/2015

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You really need to take your child to a therapist. She could just be acting out and looking for attention, or there may be some underlying reason. Maybe part of it is true and she doesn't know how to bring it up, especially if you think everything she says is a lie.

Good luck!

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Dove - posted on 05/20/2015

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For the record... I'm not saying she WAS raped or that you are to blame... just that that might be how she is feeling if it's true and if she's lying about it... she likely needs even MORE help than if it's true.

Dove - posted on 05/20/2015

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Maybe she was raped and blames you for not protecting her. Assuming she is lying is not a good way to approach the subject. She's only 14, so anything she texts to her friends or posts online SHOULD be viewed by you and be your business already.. That should have been her number one condition to being allowed internet privileges in the first place. It sounds like she is desperately crying out for help and it's up to you to get her that help. Talk to her doctor about a referral to a good family psychologist.

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