Daughter lying about friends?

Sandy - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Why does my seven yr old daughter come home after school and lie to me about certain girls being mean to her? I find out she's lying because I ask her if I should call the school to discuss this and only then does she fess up. What would she gain by this?

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Ariana - posted on 10/09/2012

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Does she do this frequently? Is this the only thing she's lying about? Maybe she's upset at the girls for some reason but whatever they're doing isn't mean enough to tell on them, so she's making up stories to make them look bad?



Also if you asked to call the school maybe she IS being bullied but then tells you no no it's not true because she doesn't want to deal with the girls/principle.



At this age I would tell her that lying is unacceptable in your family and maybe get some books about lying (the boy who cried wolf type stuff etc.). If it's frequent maybe you could get her to talk to a school councellor. If she's lying about girls at school maybe there is an issue going on there that you don't realize.

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Sandy - posted on 10/10/2012

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She doesn't lie about these girls frequently only once in awhile. My son who is 18 now and in college used to do the same thing. I remember him coming home and saying "nobody like me" and when I volunteered at the school he seemed to have been very well liked, his teacher would tell me the same thing. I wonder if it's because I'm doing something wrong. My other two kids have always been completely honest. I realized that she gets the extra attention when we discuss her lying but I can't just let it go can I?

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