Amber - posted on 06/29/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
When my ex-husband and I divorced, our main concern was our daughter. We had everything put into the divorce papers from visitations to school districts she was allowed (and not allowed) to go to. There are only 2 districts that were agreed upon. She lives with him, we have joint physical custody, which means neither of us can make a decision where she is concerned without the consent of the other parent. He recently just got into a relationship, and this girl is amazing (which you won't hear out of many peoples mouths). She has a dog, from what I understand a pitbull, that isn't allowed to be in the county he is currently living in. Her dog apparently gets along with children, other people, and other dogs so long as they aren't 'small dogs'. Well her dog bit 2 smaller dogs sometime ago, which is why she can't have it in his current county. He called asking if he could move to a different place, which is out of the school districts that were agreed upon so this girl could have her dog living with them. My concern is, even though the school is ok as far as academics go, once she would hit highschool, she would be moved to another school which is known for violence, poor academics, etc. I told him that I wasn't going to agree to him moving her, even if he were just to rent the place because I don't want to chance him not being able to move before that time comes. Not to mention, if it were me wanting to do something just because of another guy, he'd throw a huge fit, but I guess he was expecting me to be ok with him wanting to uproot our daughter and go back on our agreement just for his new girl. He got mad, hung up on me, and now there will be no talking to him about this like adults. Was I wrong for not agreeing? I don't want to be ignorant, and I really want to see his relationship work out, but I'm not going to allow him to move just because of this girl.