Nina - posted on 09/10/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My daughter is 5 months old and her father has already been in and out of her life. He has been gone for a total of 3 months. During my pregnancy he blew me off every chance he got. For instance, he offered to help me move when i was 7 months pregnant and never showed up when the time came. He ignored all of my texts and calls all day. He ended up ditching me for his 19 year old girlfriend and expected me to be ok with the situation. After he had pulled this stunt many times we had a conversation about how I feared that he would do this to our child. He promised me that he would never treat our daughter that way and now he is doing exactly what he promised not to do. I don't know how to handle this situation. He girlfriend has answered the phone when I called to rectify the situation and she called me foul names because I insinuated that she might be just as disrespectful if she encouraged this behavior. After her stunt I forbid that she be around my daughter. He had tried to come see her again (this is the second time he has left her) recently but I sternly laid out some rules that he would have to follow including supervised visits, no girlfriend, he wasn't allowed to miss any visits for this was his last chance, that he had to pay me $20 in diapers to repay the $20 he essentially stole from (that's another story), and that he had to spend more than 30 minutes with her (which was a common visit for him). Needless to say he never responded to my requests. I guess what I'm asking is if I'm being to harsh and if I should give it another shot? To be honest I feel as if i need to protect my daughter from getting her heart broken by her own father one day down the line. As a first time mom am I being over protective?