Jessica - posted on 06/13/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My ex and I got divorced when my daughter was 3 and she is now 9. He has her for visitation every other weekend and Thursday nights. Both of us have remarried and have a stable home. She is our only child, although we both have stepchildren. My daughter is my life and I treat her that way. I feel like we have a good relationship and have a great time together. However, all of the routine type things fall to me because of his work schedule. I take her to and from school every day, take care of her homework, I am there for all of her school events and any activities she has. When she goes with her dad, all of the responsibilities have already been taken care of. Through a phone call while at her dads, she expressed to me that she wants to spend more time with him. Of course, I am crushed. Granted, I'm glad her dad is in her life and she has a good relationship with him. But, I'm still hurt...and confused! When she is with me, she I happy and never says anything about her dad beyond a mention here and there. She doesn't want to call and talk to him, doesn't ever say anything about missing him, or ever ask me to see him more. The only time it ever comes up is when she is already with him. I don't know how to handle it when out of the blue, she tells me she wants more time with him. Not to mention, he leaves for work at 6:00am and doesn't get home until after 6:00pm, so where would this extra time come from without totally disrupting my daughters life. (Getting up at 5:30 in the am to come home so I can take her to school) But, more than anything, I'm hurt that my daughter doesn't see how much I do for her and instead wants to be with her dad. :( Any thoughtful advice or words would be appreciated.