Nicole - posted on 05/18/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hello All. I am not sure i am in the right place, but upon reading some posts, i hope I am.
My daughter recently (3 days ago) witnesses her boyfriends suicide. She did not live with him but was there with him the majority of the time.
She told me today that she is going to see if she can buy his house, she thinks this will make her feel better and that she will feel closer to him.
Based on experience having lost my husband 3 years ago, i know for a fact you do not make the best decisions when you first suffer a loss.
Obviously as her mother, i think this is a TERRIBLE idea - however - right now she needs all of my love and support and i dont think telling her no is 1. going to get me anywhere she is an adult and 2. only she knows what she needs to heal.
My concern is that she will have issues living there and while sure she could change her mind if its too hard and move out, there are financial considerations to take into account then.
I know i chose to stay in my home after the death of my husband BUT he did not pass from suicide, total different scenario.
The answer to this should be a no brainer (that is what i think) but wondering what other moms out there think. I am trying to be AS supportive as I can with my daughter right now, and wonder if anyone has had the same experience/issue ...what to do....