Dawn - posted on 11/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi, I've just had an altercation with my 16 year old daughter. She's been seeing a boy for 8 weeks now, we've had the sex conversation a week ago, she wanted him to stay over...I said no!
We've talked about having respect, boundaries, not just for her and herself, but also that she needs to think about me and respect that she cannot just do what she wants (this is often her response).
He came over today after college and they have spent every moment laid on her bed getting intimate. Its embarrassing and I'm not comfortable with it; however because the boyfriend was here I didn't want to say anything and cause further embarrassment for her.
She seems to think she can do what she wants, when she wants and its only since she started dating him. On the face of it he seems okay, but a few days ago she told me it was more him that wanted sex than her and that she felt a bit pressured, she also said she couldn't see herself seeing him for much longer as he annoyed her...and she expects me to not react to this and accept that she has now changed her mind and every things cool!?
The breaking point for me tonight is that she is due to have some treatment in hospital ASAP and she has a day of tomorrow...but rather than have the treatment she wants to spend the day with him. Its bonkers, although she's trying to make out that I'm being unreasonable.
I'm at a complete loss..help, advise appreciated.