Daycare nightmare

Jessica - posted on 09/14/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

23

0

0

Hi Ladies,

My 15 month old daughter just started daycare 3 times a week and since then (started Sep. 1st) she only wants to be with grandma (she picks her up and drops her off) when daddy or I want to hold her she says" No, no" and when we leave the house for work she starts crying. She is acting very spoiled and whiny. she is not eating all her food at daycare or taking her naps. This is a transition for full-time in October as my mom is going on vacation for a month and won't be around to take care of her. Is this just s stage? Will it pass soon? She whines about EVERYTHING and wants to be carried all of the time. Before this she was a sweetheart!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

JuLeah - posted on 09/14/2011

3,133

38

694

Please lose the labels. She is not acting spoiled or whiny. She is a baby. She is confused. She doesn't understand why her world changed. “She used to be a sweetheart” She still is. She is not doing any of this to upset your day.

3 days a week is hard for a baby her age. Each day is her first in many ways. She doesn't have the memory or ability to think ... ohh wait, I was just here last Friday.

Of course she wants to be carried all the time. She needs to be reassured, to feel safe.

You have to feel safe to take a nap

The food at day care is different, different bowls and cups, different table ....

This is what a confused worried baby looks like

Bonnie - posted on 09/14/2011

4,813

22

261

She is going through lots of changes. It is possible she could be going through separation anxiety.

5 Comments

View replies by

JuLeah - posted on 09/14/2011

3,133

38

694

Yes, it is hard on the heart to see our kids hurting and struggling. With your support and reassurance, with your faith and confidence in her, she will learn many good things from this. She will learn she can trust people out in the world to care for her, that she is okay even when you are not at her side, and that you always return.

Her confidence in herself will grow ... wait. The first day of kindergarten she will bolt out of the car without a backward glance in her excitement and you will be left wishing she had paused for a hug :)

[deleted account]

15mo is a tough period. Many parents find it difficult, as it's when babies start to test boundaries. Also, separation anxiety may peak around this time.

But your daughter is also going through some big, big changes, so it's understandable she's unsettled.

Jessica - posted on 09/14/2011

23

0

0

Thank you JuLeah for your response. You are completely right. Too many changes, I just want her to be super happy and seeing her like this makes me feel very sad sometimes. I appreciate you taking the time to write this :)

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms