Tiffanie - posted on 08/24/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
I'm curious if anyone knows if it is illegal for a caretaker to seclude a child in a playpen in a room alone every time they have a tantrum. Is this considered neglect or something? I live in Florida if anyone is curious. My son just started daycare for the first time at 16 months old and he had never been away from us. He was having a hard enough time adjusting and then I found the caretaker was secluding him, even if he had a tantrum at lunch and didn't want to eat she would put him the other room. The door was left open but there wasn't a direct line of site for my son to see that he wasn't alone. It was a bedroom, not an open room like a living room. I have no idea how long she would leave him in there at a time. She said she put im in there and said that if he behaved he could come out and that he listens after a minute or so and then she lets him out but I don't believe that. My son freaks out when he's alone even in our own house, I can only imagine at a strangers house, when he's already upset, and then being secluded from the other kids on top of it. I do know that she let him cry twice for over 2 hours at naptime (he's secluded then also so he doesn't bother anyone else). I told her this was unacceptable the first time and to call me if he refused to nap and I could pick him up since I was off work a bit after nap time. SHe did it a second time so now I pick him up asap after work, don't even try to let him nap (although an hour passes from when nap time starts so he's still screaming for an hour). My son was already terrified because he had never been away form us and then he was also in a strange place. Now he's afraid to go to bed at night because he doesn't want to be alone and he used to go to bed just fine (drowsy but awake and fall asleep alone). He's also waking up more now and he's started having a cow when I try to change his diaper (I know that could be age but it sure it a coincidence). He starts crying as soon as mu husband turns down her street in the morning. I know he needs to adjust but I'm sure he's affected by all of this.We are obviously switching his daycare, I'm just curious if anyone knows if this could be reported or not. Feel free to share any other thoughts, opinions, or your own daycare experiences.