Dead beat dad.

Jessica - posted on 03/05/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a son that is almost 4 months old, his dad and I haven't been together since I was about 2 months pregnant with Kasen. Since my son has been born, his dad has only seen him about a dozen times. I work so hard with him, and get nothing in return. I do everything for my son, his dad has done absolutly NOTHING for his son. Him and I have a rough past, but I have put that aside for my son. I am getting fed up with the lies, and the crap from him that I want to take him to court. how do I persue that?

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Dove - posted on 03/06/2013

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A dozen times in 4 months? That's actually quite a bit.

Before going to court I would try and set up with a mediator (someone at the courthouse should be able to tell you how to arrange this) and your ex for the two of you to work out a custody, visitation, and child support order. It will be MUCH cheaper if you can come up with an agreement together and just have it notarized by the court. If that doesn't work out... it's best to get a lawyer and have them handle it, but that can get quite expensive.

Amy - posted on 03/06/2013

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Walk into civil court and talk to the clerk, let them know you want set up visitation and child support, they should give you whatever paperwork you need. If you have the money hire a lawyer, it'll be less stress on you.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/06/2013

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I'm with Dove. A dozen times in 4 months means that he's seen his child, on average, 3 out of four weeks each month. That's STELLAR, compared to some.

I'd start with mediation, and if that doesn't produce an agreement, get an attorney.

Amy - posted on 03/06/2013

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Kristi, I only know because of being in court for my divorce. I see moms walk in all the time and say they need to file for custody and child support and the marshalls send them back to the clerk to get the paperwork they need to fill out. You still have to pay the filing fee but she can get the process started without an attorney but if he hires one it would be best if she got one too.

Kristi - posted on 03/06/2013

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Amy--I didn't know you could do that. That is great for people who can't afford any attorney!

Kristi - posted on 03/06/2013

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Unfortunately, that's about all you can do. The only other thing is if you have a low income, you can file for government assistance and they will automatically pursue your ex for child support. Good luck! It's a frustrating process. Hang in there, the end result is worth it!

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